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If you are still 'building your credit history' or want to learn about 'life insurance policies', then buy one of the simpler books. If you are an educated anal-rententive meticulously detail-oriented gay adult, then this is the book for you. You can skip the others.
This guide has been highly resourceful in the lives of my partner and I. There is not a day that goes by that we do not reference it. It is written in a very easy to understand format and contains several templates for "Durable Power of Attorneys", etc. I highly recommend this book. Anyone interested in emailing me.
This guide has been highly resourceful in the lives of my partner and I. There is not a day that goes by that we do not reference it. It is written in a very easy to understand format and contains several templates for "Durable Power of Attorney"s, etc. I highly recommend this book. Anyone interested in emailing me, just remove "no-spam" from my address.
Protect your rights -- protect your relationship!

Now more than ever, it's important that you take the proper legal steps to define and protect your relationship in the eyes of the law. If you don't, you run the risk of being shut out of each other's lives -- and the lives of children you co-parent -- in times of medical, financial or personal crisis.

This practical, plain-English guide shows lesbian and gay couples how to:

have and raise children through adoption, donor insemination, surrogacy or foster parenting

The 14th edition is updated to provide the latest information on same-sex marriage, civil unions and domestic partnerships in the U.S., Canada and around the world. It also includes a CD-ROM that helps you create essential legal documents.
Nolo Press legal guides provide useful and accurate information on how to manage your own affairs or, failing this, how to hire a lawyer and negotiate the court system. The rapid changes in gay and lesbian life in the past 30 years have not been reflected in the legal codes of most states, and without enforceable written agreements, gay and lesbian people may find such crucial matters as inheritance, legal guardianship, child custody, and support left to the whim of a judge or state agency. As the writers of this volume (first published in 1980) point out, "married couples' relationships are defined by law," while lesbian and gay couples have the freedom--and responsibility--to create their own legal relationships. Agreements drawn up in advance provide guidance for a time when all is not moonbeams and madness. Tear-out forms and sample documents are included.--Regina Marler
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< A Legal Guide for Lesbian&Gay Couples > < Estate Planning for Same-Sex Couples > < 4 Steps to Financial Security for Lesbian and Gay Couples > < The New Essential Guide to Lesbian Conception, Pregnancy, and Birth > < The Ultimate Guide to Pregnancy for Lesbians: How to Stay Sane and Care for Yourself from Pre-conception through Birth, 2nd Edition > freaks

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< Almost Like Being in Love: A Novel > < My Most Excellent Year: A Novel of Love, Mary Poppins, and Fenway Park > < Last Days of Summer > < Changing Pitches: A Novel of Love and Baseball > < The Tin Star > < Strings Attached > Steve Kluger




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(Probably my favorite book ever!)

(Unequivocally and joyfully recommended)

(Amazing characters)

(Wow! Total page turner!)

(IT WAS LOVE)
Hilarious, touching, intelligent, and incredibly original - these are just a few adjectives that I can use to describe this book. It had me smiling the entire time I was reading it, with more laughing out loud funny parts than any book I've ever had the good fortune to read.
This incredibly witty and warm story is the kind of book which makes the world a better place. Forget this being about gay guys. This is about love, and friendship, and relationships, and the people who support us through our tribulations. Also baseball, which was the bit I connected with least, but hey, you can't have everything. But it's mostly about Travis and Craig, and their wonderfully funny and loyal friends. Every character in this is a standout. Travis is OCD, and a real sweetheart - mad, brilliant, neurotic and determined, obsessed with baseball and history, and prone to extravagant methods of catching the attention of men he fancies. He drives people insane, and makes them fall in love with him forever. He's the one who never found happiness after Craig, never found the right man, the ideal boyfriend, and it's his realisation that he has to go back to where it started, that gets everything rolling - but we're a good way into the book before that even begins.

Craig is a mover and shaker, a lawyer committed to personal rights, in love with a decent, faithful and supportive man, apparently happily settled. His partner Clayton is steady, doesn't like change, and is deeply committed to his lover - he's the kind of man every mother would want their son or daughter to bring home. He and Craig are truly happy, as married as two gay men can be. Yet when Craig suspects Travis is about to re-enter his life, he can't help but be glad to have a chance to settle a chapter in his life, with the first man he ever fell in love with. That this coincides with conflict with Clayton and potential huge changes in this life, means Travis might just have a chance with him.

Their story is told in letters, memos, checklists, legal reports, assignments, newspaper clippings, diary entries and emails between them and their friends, students, acquaintances, business colleagues and to each other. It's laugh out loud funny without degenerating into silliness, though Travis manages to get himself into some farcical situations, and the humour is crisp and fast, kind of like John Cusack on crack. Craig's law partner and best friend, Charleen, adds a blunt, common-sense flavour to the novel, and a precocious boy from a broken home has some of the best lines.

There's too much going on in the plot to summarise, but it's not confusing or difficult to follow, even though it skips back and forth between Craig and Travis's teenage years, the recent past and the present, mirroring Travis's manic search for love and happiness, and his crazed approach to just about everything. The story also doesn't end how you think it will, and pulls off the difficult trick of squaring Craig and Clayton's real love for each other with Craig and Travis's lifelong devotion.

The writing is simply terrific - masterly, in fact - and I fell in love with Travis, Charleen and Noah. Craig, I had reservations about because I liked Clayton so much and didn't want to see him hurt. Fortunately, the author gives these lovely people the happy and dignified futures they deserve.

"Almost like being in love" is about second chances, and the intensity of your first real love, a memorable romance, and a remarkably humane piece of writing.
The best type of book is the one that makes you want to sit down and get to know all the characters better. This book does all that and more. I've always loved books written in an epistolary style, and "Almost Like Being in Love" is a terrific example.

The main character is endearing, quirky, and is obliviously hilarious. The plot is good, but really, what matters is the way the author showcases each of his characters. It's the perfect read whenever you're feeling a little gloomy, just like The Princess Bride: S. Morgenstern's Classic Tale of True Love and High Adventure or Love Actually (Widescreen Edition)
This book was absolutely excellent. This is, hands down, the greatest, most adorable, heartwarming, funny, and touching book I have ever read. If you love great romances, this book is for you!

What a wonderful, wonderful book. From the moment I read the first line I knew I had something very special in front of me. My only complaint is I was so engaged in the lives of these charming characters that I read the entire book in one setting. I simply couldn't put it down.

The style of the book is a fresh, modern and wholly charming take on the novel. I think about my own life-with all the letters, clippings, e-mails, cards etc. Those things do tell the story of my life and my dear love.

This book has something for everyone. Just buy it, enjoy and believe in the power of LOVE.

A high school jock and nerd fall in love senior year, only to part after an amazing summer of discovery to attend their respective colleges. They keep in touch at first, but then slowly drift apart.

Flash forward twenty years.

Travis and Craig both have great lives, careers, and loves. But something is missing .... Travis is the first to figure it out. He's still in love with Craig, and come what may, he's going after the boy who captured his heart, even if it means forsaking his job, making a fool of himself, and entering the great unknown. Told in narrative, letters, checklists, and more, this is the must-read novel for anyone who's wondered what ever happened to that first great love.

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< Almost Like Being in Love: A Novel > < My Most Excellent Year: A Novel of Love, Mary Poppins, and Fenway Park > < Last Days of Summer > < Changing Pitches: A Novel of Love and Baseball > < The Tin Star > freaks

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< Neither Man Nor Woman: The Hijras of India > < Nisa: The Life and Words of a !Kung Woman > < Guests of the Sheik: An Ethnography of an Iraqi Village > < Death Without Weeping: The Violence of Everyday Life in Brazil (Centennial Book) > < Gender in Cross-Cultural Perspective (3rd Edition) > < In Search of Respect: Selling Crack in El Barrio (Structural Analysis in the Social Sciences) > Serena Nanda




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(review of neither man nor woman)

(Unforgettable!)

(Interesting ethnography)

(Nanda's Neither Man Nor Woman)

(An Anthropological Study)
I found this book very interesting and informative. I had read accounts of this type of goddess worship in ancient records (greek and roman)when I was a teenager but there was little cultural context and no rationale concerning the practices of emasculation. This book answered a lot of questions, why the operation, what the benefit to the devotee, who were these worshippers. I enjoyed finelly getting the answers to decades long questions.
A classic, absolutely fascinating study of the transvestite eunuch hijras of India. Combining objectivity with sympathy and respect, the writer allows us to glimpse the feelings and aspirations of these people, whose lives encompass joy, sadness, degradation, liberation, hope. The reader comes to know the hijras as real people while gaining an understanding of a very ancient and significant way of life. Nanda's lucid writing and subtle insights are augmented by a marvelous collection of color photographs and vivid case histories, including numerous first person accounts. This book is a model for ethnographic study and will leave an indelible impression on the heart and mind of anyone who reads it.
This was a very interesting book on a very interesting group of people. Nanda did a superb job of describing the Hijras in the context of Indian society. The personal accounts of individual Hijras added a great perspective. My one problem with this book is that throughout, while striving to show the validity of the concept of more than two genders, Nanda gave the impression that she feels that the Western cultural concept of gender dichotomy is backward and naive. To me, this felt like an attack on Western culture, which I do not look for in supposedly unbiased ethnographies.
While reading Nanda's Neither Man Nor Woman, I was struck by the sheer competancy and volume of her research. She truly gives a vivid, accurate picture of hijra life, ritual, and social attitude. The hijras are a group of traveling performers/prostitiutes who participate in ritualized castration. They are often homosexual, transsexual, or impotent men who are endowed by society with religious authority. They worship the Hindu Goddess Bahuchara Mata and participate in theatrical blessings of male children and newly weds. Nanda documents their rituals and beliefs while also defining their function within mainstream Indian society. My only point of criticism with Nanda'e work is her slight failure to fully demystify some of the ambiguities surrounding the hijras. One is never really certain of the actual definition and occupation of the hijras. However, after doing research on the hijras, Nanda's book is truly the most accurate and unbiased research available on hijra life. I would recommend it strongly.
I found this book to be an intriguing and comprehensive analysis of the lives of the Hijras of India. Nanda through personal interviews and anthropological analysis paints a picture of their lives as both marginal and yet highly spiritual. She describes how in India the hijras play an important role in both the blessings of marriages and childbirth's. It also describes the process of decision making that they go through to become a true spiritual hijra by becoming eunuchs. It is an important study to read because it challenges ideas of sexuality and spirituality. By becoming a eunuch, the Hijras truly become neither man nor woman. With their spiritual connection, they also are able to feel a sense of pride in who they are. Although this does not mean that they are exempt from harassment, it gives them a spiritual capital with which to protect themselves. It is an important book to read as well because it challenges ideas of sexuality and especially homosexuality in the US and other cultures as well.
This ethnography is a cultural study of the Hijras of India, a religious community of men who dress and act like women. It focuses on how Hijras can be used in the study of gender categories and human sexual variation.
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< Neither Man Nor Woman: The Hijras of India > < Nisa: The Life and Words of a !Kung Woman > < Guests of the Sheik: An Ethnography of an Iraqi Village > < Death Without Weeping: The Violence of Everyday Life in Brazil (Centennial Book) > < Gender in Cross-Cultural Perspective (3rd Edition) > freaks

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< Quicksand&Passing > < Cane > < Their Eyes Were Watching God > < The Blacker the Berry (Dover Books on Literature&Drama) > < Plum Bun: A Novel Without a Moral > < Incidents in the Life of a Slave Girl (Dover Thrift Editions) > Nella Larsen




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 Serpent's Tail
 

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(A prescription)

(Eh...)

(Amazing Narrative and Multi-Faceted Topics)

(2 nicely paired novellas)

(Only read Quicksand--wonderful book)
Being already mesmerized by the great Toni Morrison, I was quite surprised to literally "fall" on this book (found in a box of free books).
I'd say that Morrison is a pre-Larsen, but then, I may be finding out that these black ladies who write - so well - are very preocuppied with their race. Obviously, it's allright with me as it is exactly that fact that interests me very much. I learn in novels because it is part-reality, part-fiction.
(Please don't blame a white French-Canadian man for that.Curiosity doesn't kill this cat)
I began with Passing, as the story appealed to me. And I simply loved it. Never knew that passing existed (innocent me again) and this makes a large subject to cover. This, Larsen does delicately. And with great impact.
Next, Quicksand. I read it with much attention but got a bit lost towards the end. Something about a lack of proper closure for this novel made me feel like the author lost some interest in it or didn't know herself how to complete it. But, she does make her point clear.
(all that already pointed out in the intro, that should have been put at the end of the book, not at the beginning. Read it last too...).
A search on the net made me find out that Larsen is being studied in many different schools in America. This kind of prescribed reading may disgust some people (like us here who all had to read The Tin Flute, by Gabrielle Roy) but bear in mind that teachers makes us read the real stuff. I invite you too go for it, especially Passing, that is really a great novel... with much to make us think about.

I think 3 is generous. I absolutely hated Quicksand, although I did appreciate the fact that Larsen's main character wasn't exactly likable, I think that was a different unusual approach, she's not exactly the ideal protagonist which is awesome. But as far as the story goes, its so reminiscent of the tragic mulatto to me and I'm pretty sick of that stereotype. Passing was better, but that too remained true to the tragic mulatto frame. It was no masterpiece.
Passing is an amazing narrative. A key to the success of the narrative in Nella Larsen's Passing is the use of a limited third-person narrator, because it allows the villain to hide. Through the voice of Irene Redfield, characterizations get meted out as she sees fit, and only by Irene's portraits of others can we arrive at her own characteristics and motivations. As Irene describes and interacts with others, she unwittingly betrays her shrewd plans. Whether done subconsciously or not, her subtle actions and inactions tattle on her, yet she keeps the narrative vague enough that she comes off as a victim of Clare. Irene paints herself as a sheep and Clare as a wolf, when in fact the opposite is true. The affair that presumably takes place between Clare and Brian seems to catch Irene off-guard.

Keep an eye on Irene.

Amazing narrative on several levels. The crossing of domains in this novella is outstanding. Because Irene has control of the narrative, the childhood events and characterizations indict Clare as untrustworthy instead of as a misfortunate child who overcomes great obstacles. This distrust raises questions later on when Clare all but moves into Irene's house, and Irene doesn't protest for an "obscure reason."

Quicksand is one of my favorite fictional stories. In truth, the word "fiction" can not adequately touch upon the essence of this novel. Helga Green's biographical information is nearly identical to that of Nella Larson, and in Helga we, the readers, see a reflection of Ms. Larsen.

Helga is a heroine, tragic not because of her fate, but of her resignation to her fate and inability to rise above it. Larsen realizes the bonds of racism and sexism that held steadfastedly in place, whether it's in Harlem or Copenhagen. A reader may either sympathesize with Helga's plight or sneer at her stupidity. But perhaps that's what Larson wants to portray. Sometimes one is irrational when it comes to the matters of the heart or the lack of. Even the most intelligent of us. We would gasp in surprise if the same fate fell upon others but would seem resigned when we are in the same situation.

Passing is considered by many critics as Larsen's "lesser novella." True, it is not as riveting as Quicksand, but it explores deeper issues of gender and the color barrier. While in Quicksand the relationship between Helga and Anne is at best lightly touched upon, the one between Clare and Irene is more complex and poignant.

Throughout the novel(la), there is a tinge of homoeroticism, if you read between the lines. This is a story, not so much of the tragic mulatta (even though tragedy tends to overshadow all else in Larsen's work), nor merely of the phenomenon of passing for white, but of two women's exploration of their own gender, sexual, and racial roles in the tumulous society of upper middle-class Harlem.

Both stories written in the early 1930s period, this book features Larsen at her best. Even though the endings to both are quite anti-climatic, one should find in her stories enough food for thought and a quite thorough insight into female African American conflicts and culture during the Renaissance era.
I read this book years ago, in college. It made me much more sympathetic to the struggles of biracial (black and white) women, of the past and today -- I am an Asian-American female. The book is a beautifully written, but painful story of how the protagonist moves through her life in societies where she is kept down on many levels (socially, economically, psychologically, physically) -- basically her journey through the "quicksand" of classism, racism, and sexism. The book deserves a wide audience.
Nella Larsen's Quicksand, first published in 1928, was the first novel to give voice to the sexual desires of a black woman. Helga Crane, the book's main protagonist, is frapped in the conflict between sexual fulfilment and middle-class respectability and a conflict of race and sex which even a religous conversion cannot resolve. Passing (1929) tackles the sensitive issue of black people who 'pass' for white. It also explores the desire of one woman for another - a new and daring theme for the writing of the time.
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