price：$70.00
Cambridge University Press
Usually ships in 24 hours Core2Duoノートレビュー 's review (fundamental rights) 『This is a well-done book, but one that will be a bit hard for those not at least somewhat familiar with constitutional law to follow. Gerstmann argues that marriage is a "fundamental right" under the constitution, and as such it is illegitimate to refuse to extend this right to same-sex couples. In making this argument he draws interesting analogies to the court's free speach jurisprudence. He tries to show how the more common "gender discrimination" argument doesn't work. I think this part is not 100% convincing, but it is a sophisticated approach. His discussion of the various "slippery slope" objections to gay marriage are also quite good. To my mind the biggest draw-back of this book is that it often makes quite teloscopic reference to other books (including Gerstmann's earlier book) in the place of detailed arguments. This book is not very long as it is, and it probably would have been better servered to give these arguments in more detail rather than just refering to other work as often as it does. This is especially the case for readers who do not have at least some constitutional law background.』
(Why same-sex marriage is Constitutional) 『Want to read a really good book setting out the case for the Constitutionality of same-sex marriage? This is it.
There are lots of books out there making the argument that recognition of same-sex marriage is a good idea. This is one of very few devoted solely to the case that the Constitution _requires_ such recognition. And it's very well-reasoned.
This book was being prepared for publication as _Lawrence v. Texas_ was decided, so you might think it would be outdated. But it isn't; that decision reinforces Gerstmann's analysis almost point by point.
I say 'almost' because _Lawrence_ was decided under the Due Process Clause, whereas Gerstmann thinks that fundamental rights are better regarded as founded in the Equal Protection Clause. (I disagree with him there, by the way, and I also wonder why he doesn't consider the Privileges and Immunities Clause. On the other hand, he gets extra credit for favorably considering the Ninth Amendment.)
But in the end it doesn't matter, because Gerstmann's argument is firmly grounded in the fact that the Supreme Court has long recognized the right to marry as a fundamental right. (Where that right is 'located' in the Constitution is a separate and subsidiary question.) This fundamental-right approach yields, on Gerstmann's view (and mine), a much more tenable analysis than the more common equal-protection approach. (And of course _Lawrence_ relied on a liberty-rights analysis in striking down state anti-'sodomy' laws -- which is why Gerstmann's analysis gets a fresh boost from that landmark decision.)
There are lots of other analytical treats throughout. For example, Gerstmann devotes the better part of a chapter to an argument that _Loving v. Virginia_ doesn't really provide a good analogy to same-sex marriage. He faces head-on the problems associated with judicial 'creation' of rights and offers a four-point pragmatic test for when it's okay. And he dismantles 'original intent'-based Constitutional interpretation by taking on the most capable and nuanced of its defenders.
(He also does a bang-up job setting out all the things that are _wrong_ with reliance on current Equal Protection jurisprudence. That won't surprise readers of Gerstmann's earlier book, _The Constitutional Underclass_, which I also highly recommend.)
But the best (and most important) part by far is the analysis of the right to marry as a fundamental right that encompasses same-sex marriage. This portion of Gerstmann's analysis should _gain_ in importance as post-_Lawrence_ courts address the Constitutionality of same-sex marriage bans. (And so should his argument that proponents of same-sex marriage should hold out for full-blown _marriage_ rather than, as William Eskridge has counselled, be at least temporarily satisfied with 'domestic partnerships' or 'civil unions'.)
My own opinion is that recognition of same-sex civil marriages is indeed required under the Constitution -- and since I held that opinion before reading Gerstmann's book, I may not be a good test of his persuasiveness. (I'm also a lawyer, so I can't tell you how 'readable' the book will be for non-lawyers.) But I find Gerstmann's argument cogent and, for the most part, right on the money.』
(A legal book for everyone) 『This fascinating book is cogent, well argued and a straight-forward read. It is clearly targeted at lawyers, but is very accessible by the lay audience.
The author, a law professor, originally set out to prove that there is no Constitutional right to same-sex marriage, and became convinced, while doing his research, that he was wrong.
He argues strongly the Supreme Court has established a Fundamental Right To Marry and there is no reasonable legal defense against extending that right to same-sex couples.
』 『The revised and expanded second edition of Same-Sex Marriage and the Constitution makes the case that the Constitution has long protected the right to marry, and that this protection includes the right to marry a person of the same gender. No other book makes this argument. This book addresses other issues, such as why same-sex marriage is completely different, both practically and constitutionally, from polygamy and incest, and it debunks the myth that pro-same-sex marriage decisions have created a backlash against either gays and lesbians or the Democratic Party.』
price：$99.95
Duke University Press
Usually ships in 3 to 5 weeks Core2Duoノートレビュー 's review (A Criticism of Bio - and Geopolitcs) 『Puar, Jasbir. "Terrorist Assemblages: Homonationalism In Queer Times", Duke University Press, 2007.
A Criticism of Bio- and Geopolitics
Amos Lassen
Looking at the issues of patriotism, terrorism and the exceptionalism of the United States, Jasbir Puar, associate professor of women's and gender studies at Rutgers University, gives her critique of biopolitcs and geopolitcs as they relate to race, homophobia, queerness and "heteronormality". Granted this is not an easy subject to understand but reading it with patience and an open mind will provide the reader with a new way to look at the world. I had not heard of homonational politics before and that is why I had a look at this book which takes a scholarly look at what are the possibilities that queer politics can take. Puar's argument is that the present configurations of sexuality, gender, race, class, nation and ethnicity are coming together and realigning themselves as they relate to the new forces of counterterrorism, secularization and modern nationalism. Liberal politics are able to incorporate queer subjects into what is considered the nation-state through legally overturning the laws that prohibit sodomy. By doing so the members of the GLBT community become represented in the mainstream. Thus we have the issues of gay marriage and reproductive kinship becoming national issues. However we must also look to the east where there are terrorist populations. Puar's research is amazing and meticulous and her sources run the gamut from modern media to governmental texts. She uses the links between terrorism and sexuality and shows the results--one of which is GLBT hatred of Islam or as she calls it "queer Islamophobia". This is a very smart and intellectual look at the modern war machine and the creation of knowledge in the age of counter-terror. 』
(A rare gift!) 『Jasbir K. Puar offers an unusually inspired diagnosis of today's war machines and the politics of knowledge-making in an era of counter/terror. "Terrorist Assemblages: Homonationalism in Queer Times" is a smart and deeply disturbing account of recent realignments of race, gender, sexuality, nation, class and ethnicity in the context of contemporary forces of counterterrorism, nationalism and securitization. Wielding an expansive methodological and theoretical toolkit, Puar puts her sharp analytic to excellent use, offering timely criticisms on a vast range of key concepts within contemporary transnational cultural studies. With a lyrical prose that is at times hauntingly poetic, if mildly "Deleuze-ional," Puar remains consistently astute in her political and cultural commentaries. The text follows recent scholarly works that: critically reassess the epistemologies of secular-liberal imaginaries; extend the affective turn in post-structuralist theory; and strengthen the transnational turn in queer studies. For these and many other reasons, the book has garnered critical back-cover acclaim from the likes of Rey Chow, Lauren Berlant and Sara Ahmed. Entirely deserving of their praise, Terrorist Assemblages is sure to make waves in transnational feminism, South Asian and Arab American studies, queer studies, counter/terrorism and security studies, affect studies and postcolonial critique. In short, Puar's book is a rare gift for young scholars invested in exposing and undermining the links between race, sexuality and counter/terrorism, and for its archival strength alone, it will stimulate our diverse fields for years to come.』 『In this path-breaking work, Jasbir K. Puar argues that configurations of sexuality, race, gender, nation, class, and ethnicity are realigning in relation to contemporary forces of securitization, counterterrorism, and nationalism. She examines how liberal politics serve to incorporate certain queer subjects into the fold of the nation-state, through developments including the legal recognition inherent in the overturning of anti-sodomy laws and the proliferation of more mainstream representation. These incorporations have shifted queers from their construction as figures of death (the AIDS epidemic) to subjects tied to ideas of life and productivity (gay marriage and reproductive kinship). Puar contends, however, that this tenuous inclusion of some queer subjects depends on the production of populations of Orientalized terrorist bodies. Heteronormative ideologies that the U.S. nation-state has long relied on are now accompanied by homonormative ideologies replicating narrow racial, class, gender, and national ideals. These "homonationalisms" are deployed to distinguish upright "properly hetero," and now "properly homo," U.S. patriots from perversely sexualized and racialized terrorist look-a-likes--especially Sikhs, Muslims, and Arabs--who are cordoned off for detention and deportation.
Puar combines transnational feminist and queer theory, Foucauldian biopolitics, Deleuzian philosophy, and technoscience criticism, and draws from an extraordinary range of sources, including governmental texts, legal decisions, films, television, ethnographic data, queer media, and activist organizing materials and manifestos. Looking at various cultural events and phenomena, she highlights troublesome links between terrorism and sexuality: in feminist and queer responses to the Abu Ghraib photographs, in the triumphal responses to the Supreme Court's Lawrence decision repealing anti-sodomy laws, in the measures Sikh Americans and South Asian diasporic queers take to avoid being profiled as terrorists, and in what Puar argues is a growing Islamophobia within global queer organizing.』
price：$6.40
Beacon Press
Usually ships in 24 hours Core2Duoノートレビュー 's review (Very in depth-too in depth) 『The title caught my eye and a friend of mine was in 'Dignity' which is the Catholic group the author formed. I never finished the book but passed it on to my friend. I do not know if he has real it all yet.』
(Eisegesis) 『Ultimately, the casuistry of defrocked Fr. McNeil exposes itself. If the Levitical Code of Holiness no longer applies in the new covenant, surely the Pauline epistle to the Romans does. And the text is not as ambiguous as McNeil's casuistry would have readers be deceived. The sin of idolatry of same-sex relations is unambiguous, and is archetypal of sin itself -- at least in Pauline anthropology and theology.
From the early Didache throughout Christian history, same-sex relations have not only been condemned, they've been regarded as demonic, an oracle of the evil one, as Louis Crompton's "Civilization&Homosexuality" documents.
The problem that homophiles refuse to acknowledge is in the Roman indictment itself. Those who appeal to wisdom are claimed to be fools (i.e., Greek philosophers and androphiles). Those who engage in same-sex erotica, have "already been given up" to debased minds and thinking. So, that an ex-priest's use of casuistry to make unsupportable claims would be self-validating of the Romans 1 indictment. Casuistry, whether Jesuitical or not, as Blaise Pascal observed, does not alter a tiger's spots.
Unfortunately, for homophiles, this primitive thinking has infected 15 centuries of Christian hegemony, and as long as Judaism, Christianity, and/or Islam are taken "at face value," for their claims, homophiles will be excluded from the Elect, Chosen, and Kingdom. As long as scriptures are thought to be articles of truth, rather than articles of obedience, the word of god will stand against casuists.
Biologists, who are not beholden to prove scriptures right or wrong, insist homophilia is biologically normal. Certainly, the Greeks and Romans thought so, which may explain why Paul indicts "the wise" as fools. Perhaps the fools are those who believe in ancient tales that have no credibility, not the ones who are erotically, emotionally, and physically attracted to their same sex.
If angels rape women, if women turn into salt, if the sun stands still, if virgins give birth, if water changes into wine, if the dead regain life, if apparitions ascend into heavens, perhaps the 300+ dreams and visions of the Bible are just that: dreams. Unfortunately, those dreams have caused immense suffering -- from sexism, racism, slavery, homophobia, and war in the middle east. All in the name of god.』
(Beginning of my Journey) 『At first I felt like this book was stretching what i knew as the truth of the Scripture, but as i started to open my mind and my heart i discovered what the purpose of the book was. it was to free gays and lesbians of the notion that the Bible and the church hates them. that there are other ways to intrepret the meaning behind the words. this was the first book pro-gay book i've read and it really did help me begin my journey of self discovery. i don't know if i am ready to step back into church as an openly gay christian, but one day i hope to. back by Scripture and by the love of God. the next book i hope to read is "Stranger at the Gate" by Mel White.』
(My minister recommended this) 『The minister at my local southern baptist church told me about this book, when my husband of 20 years began having an identity crisis problem. I found the information in this book to be helpful in dealing with his feelings of homosexuality. We did infact split in the end but the split was much cleaner than it might have been had I not found this book. There is an arizona resource helpline that also assisted me and recommended this book, they can be reached at 1-480-987-3979 or 1-480-831-6200, at the later number ask for Vicki.』
(Brave and challenging theology) 『I find John McNeill's The Church and the homosexual a clear example of what I call "Brave Theology". Mc Neill does not write an unfounded claim, but establishes his arguments on grounds of a hard work of scholarship. To support his views, he appeals to bible theology, philosophy and human sciences. Thus, he forces moral theologist to take his book into account, whether they like it or not. I am firmly convinced that in the future John Mc Neill will be remembered as a pioneer who dared challenge The Church's unsuitable and unacceptable view on homosexuality.』 『Fourth Edition
In this "brave and good book which shatters bad myths" (Commonweal), McNeill shows that the Bible does not condemn homosexuality, and argues that the Church must not continue its homophobic practices.
"The Church and the Homosexual is a major weapon for those who are fighting to change the Church." -The Reverend Paul Moore, Jr.』
price：$4.78
Planeta Publishing
Usually ships in 24 hours Core2Duoノートレビュー 's review (Good, but a little too much self-pity) 『This is really a sequence of autobiographical short stories, about growing up rich and gay in Lima in the 70s and 80s. The stories are well-told, with interesting characters and dialogue, most of them involving relationships that start sweet and go sour. Almost all the people he deals with are awful, hypocritical, and cruel; he himself is simply weak. Every person of the upper class (his own) is aggressively racist, and it goes without saying that men either rape or buy sex from the (largely mestiza) household maids. Every male he gets close to either uses and humiliates him sexually (sexual abuse of boys seems endemic in upper-class Lima) or turns against him after he makes a tentative overture.
The earliest stories, about his childhood, are the most painful. As he gets older he learns how to navigate his world, and even has happy moments with lovers, but becomes destructively addicted to cocaine. The second half of the book is about life in his 20s as a successful print and tv journalist who gets an allowance from his mom, spends a lot of his time in Miami, has affairs with ostensibly straight men (and one woman), and eventually quits coke and comes part-way out of the closet. The second half works less well than the first because the narrator's pathologically passive personality doesn't make sense with his social and professional success, and therefore comes to seem artificial. 』
(Decepcionante) 『Bayly tiene otros libros mejores. Este ni siquiera está bien escrito. Si quieren leer algo de este autor que disfrutarán, mejor busquen "Y de repente, un ángel". Mucho mejor como libro.』
(A wonderful entertaining story not only for gay people) 『This book is really entertaining. I thought it was going to be just a story for gay people but it goes beyond that, telling you about the frustrations of the main character and teaching you about the process and adventure of eventually accepting ourselves the way we are born. The Peruvian slang (which is everywhere in the book) is easily understandable by anyone who pays enough attention to the story. It's also a wonderful book to learn about machismo in Latin America, about racial issues in Peru and the anti-natural ethical code proposed by the Catholic church and other fundamentalist religious trends.』
(A book with controversial themes..well approached by Jaime B) 『
No se lo digas a nadie deals with what is considered still a very controversial topic in most Latin American societies. Jaime Bayly explores the world of homosexuality and the reactions by the society in which one lives and the reader gets a taste of how people react, scorn, and alienate etc. homosexual and gay culture. The reader gets a picture of how the theme is dealt with in Lima, Peru but I think the reactions of people would be similar in other Latin cultures.
Joaquin, the protagonist struggles against traditional values, his father's machismo while he discovers his own homosexual tendencies. Also, we learn that the protagonist is drug addict- cocaine in Peru is not that difficult to ascertain. This book is worth the read if you want to explore the many themes that are revealed by Jaime Bayly in the book: homosexuality, drug addiction, and the presence of machismo in the Latin culture. The language is strong but it goes hand and hand with the theme of the book.』
(Julius coqueado) 『El libro de Bayly es interesante en cuanto que presenta una version descarnada de los sectores altos de la sociedad peruana, que estan mas cercanos a Miami que al Peru. El libro esta bien escrito, pero carece en realidad de un estilo definido; no hay una propuesta literaria original o interesante. De otro lado, este libro fue escrito decadas atras por Alfredo Bryce Echenique en "Un Mundo para Julius", pero claro, Julius es una imagen mas blanca de la clase alta peruna, mientras que en la version Bayly lo unico blanco es toda la coca que se jalan! Lo recomiendo igual』 『No se lo digas a nadie narra la trayectoria personal de un retono de la mas acomodada burguesia limena, el cual descubre, en un contexto familiar donde el mas brutal machismo y clasismo coexisten con la mojigateria, su propia identidad homoerotica, que le lleva, no sin algun episodio de ocasional heterosexualidad, a la espiral de la drogadiccion, en el ambito de los«coqueros» y al borde mismo de la prostitucion masculina urbana. Sin embargo, el protagonista no es devorado por el mundo de la marginalidad, y, al aceptarse a si mismo, convierte su conflictiva ruta, alejada ya de la droga, en una afirmacion serena de la condicion que le define.』
price：$4.47
Alyson Books
Usually ships in 24 hours Core2Duoノートレビュー 's review (Minimizes the role that undiagnosed brain conditions play) 『Okay, well, first please allow me to explain why I, a woman married to a man, am even interested in this book, much less tossing in my two cents worth here. I do it because it could possibly help someone answer some questions about why they do the things they do. (Because I am wholly unqualified to "review" this book per se, I gave it four stars, which seems to be the average.)
For almost ten years, I've volunteered to lead discussion groups in the ADHD community -- for parents of children with ADHD as well as adults with ADHD and their partners. I've met thousands of people with ADHD and am fully aware that it crosses nationalities, socioeconomic backgrounds, genders, and yes, gender orientation.
So, why is it that I've encountered so few gay men in these groups? In the online group that I moderate for partners of adults with ADHD (some 500 members at last count, and international in scope), about 75 percent of the members are women with male partners who have ADHD, 15 percent are men with female partners who have ADHD, and 10 percent are women in same-sex relationships. In seven years, there have been two gay male members. (By the way, I'm in the San Francisco Bay Area, where being gay is regarded as nothing out of the ordinary, so that's not the issue, I'm pretty sure.) Partly, I think, women, in general, are more drawn to discussion/support groups than men are, in general. Hence the lower number of men in the group, period. That said, I also moderate a local face-to-face group, which is almost entirely men.
At the same time, I have enough close gay male friends to know that sometimes it's a matter of feeling a world apart from "het" norms when it comes to sexual mores -- not wanting to be confined, defined, or judged by them. Fair enough. I've never exactly been conventional myself.
Logically, though, there's no reason that ADHD should manifest any less in gay men than it does in straight men. The best estimates indicate that about 4% (extremely conservative) to 16% (more realistic) of the adult population in the U.S. has ADHD. Yet, I wonder if therapists and psychiatrists who specialize in gay male clientele are aware of this. From conversations with my friends, I wonder if there's a sort of "gay cultural overlay" that obscures recognition of ADHD, especially when the same patterns that challenge straight men with ADHD appear in gay men. So, I check in with books such as this to see if ADHD is even covered.
Why? What's the connection between ADHD and compulsive or out-of-control sexual behavior? At its core, ADHD is a disorder of dysregulation, of self-control. With key deficits in impulsivity, hyperactivity (which manifests more covertly than commonly thought), and inattention, ADHD affects one's ability to "put on the brakes." It also impairs motivation, initiation, and learning from mistakes. In short, it is not kid's stuff.
For example, teens with untreated ADHD are, as a population, more sexually precocious than their peers, have more sexual partners and more STDS, and are more likely to have unwanted pregnancies. They are also more likely to develop substance abuse disorders. When you talk about "self-medicating" - which is common with untreated ADHD -- you're talking about everything from sex to alcohol to food to driving recklessly. The more stimulation, the more calm in the brain that seems to be tuning into too many stations at once.
ADHD is considered THE most highly impairing outpatient condition, moreso than depression or anxiety. Yet, it is also considered highly treatable. Trouble is, only a minimum of one in ten of the adults thought to have it have been diagnosed. And only a fraction of those pursue treatment. Still fewer are receiving good treatment, following clinical protocols. That's why I was alarmed when I read this passage in Cruise Control: "Myth #6: Sex Addiction is a Sign of Some Other Mental Illness"
Who says that is a myth? Where is this author's research? The author gives only one paragraph, with very short shrift, to the role that both bi-polar disorder and ADHD can play in sexual addiction -- and then further minimizes ADHD by saying: "When their emotional state is stabilized with proper therapy and medication, their hypersexual behaviors usually disappear."
The problem: Most people are misinformed about what ADHD is -- and isn't. Particularly, most have no idea that is it associated with so-called paraphilias. Moreover, it's not as easily treated as the author suggests, especially when decades of living without benefit of diagnosis has resulted in a ton of poor coping skills, possibly including "self-medicating" with sex and bugging out of a relationship the minute that the novelty has faded.
To be clear: ADHD is a syndrome, and it includes a wide range of behaviors. It is not a "one size fits all" condition. Some men with ADHD find the "reality" of sex much more boring than the "thinking about it" -- and tend to be almost assexual, especially if in a long-term relationship. But it must be said that ADHD can definitely create problems in maintaining stable relationships instead of being drawn to the "next shiny object" and stimulating source of sexual stimulation. I hope that's clear, and sorry I'm going on so long. But I think it's important.
Granted, I am NOT an expert in sexual addiction, and there are many issues in this book that are out of my ken. I would not presume otherwise. But I am enough of an expert on ADHD to know that this paragraph (from the next page) shows a profound lack of understanding about how much this closely describes how ADHD manifests in problematic sexual behavior:
"A sex addict's patterns of sexual behavior are characterized by lack of control. While a nonaddicted individual can quickly see how his behavior causes problems or has the potential to do so, the sex addict continues despite the risks. He has likely experienced trouble in his life as a consequence of his sexual activities, and he is just as likely to have downplayed his troubles, even if they have brought him or others physical or emotional harm.
"He appears unable or unwilling to place boundaries around sex even when those limits would keep him and/or others safe from the possibility of physical or legal jeopardy. The amount of sex he has, the physical intensity of the sex act, and the time he spends having sex or in the search for sex often exceed what he intended, though he will often vigorously defend his activities. Unlikely healthy people who self-correct if realize (sic) they have chosen a sexually inappropriate or sexually excessive behavior, the sex addict will often return to that same behavior or worse."
My point is: If you try the strategies in this book and they don't work for you -- or work only for a while -- and if you think you might possibly have ADHD, it's well worth getting it checked out by a competent clinician. Not always easy to find, mind you, so get educated first before you even begin to look for one.
Well, I hope this is useful to someone.』
(A good guide to understand what is happening with you...or your partner!) 『This is probably the most sincere, scientific, experimental and holistic guide to all those affected by the Sex Addiction and Love addiction.
It begins with a test to decide if you are "in" this circle or "out", it describes the problem with solid examples and it explains the reason to fall into this addiction without falling in mannierisms nor moralisms... It really helps you to understand your reactions and has some sort of practical agenda to write your experiencies and set your goals for recovery.
To sum up, after "out of the Shadows", which I had the opportunity to read at a friend' s house in Paris, and in which it is inspired, "Cruise Control" is THE BOOK gay men expected to have in their area, and so their partners or family affected by their behaviour.
Probably, the most worked out issue is to separate the weak boundarie often mixed up between the gay feedom for sex and the obsesion for having it at any time, and at any price.
』
(Understanding Sexual Compulsion) 『Weiss, Robert. "Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men", Alyson Books, 2005.
Understanding Sexual Compulsion
Amos Lassen
Robert Weiss looks at the ways in which gay men go about finding sexual expression. He uses the clinical approach as he explores whether sexual behavior causes problems in other areas of our lives and helps us to see the difference between sexual compulsion and non-addictive sexual behavior. He also gives us resources for recovery. This is a book that is written expressly for gay men. If read properly it can show the way to a full life with healthy sexual practices. Many in the gay community suffer from a sense of sexual addiction and many times we act on impulse. Some of us are not even aware that we have an addiction to sex and Weiss shows us how to know we indeed are addicted. Spending more time cruising than doing anything else is a sign of that trend. Weiss looks at the gay lifestyle from various perspectives and he does not judge. We do not usually talk about sexual addiction so for Weiss to write a book about it is a help to the way we live. By reading this we can better understand what is happening to us and why we spend so much time looking for the prefect partner (who will probably be a stepping stone to the next perfect partner). Many of us are unable to deal with our sexual feelings competently but here is a way to find the road to recovery. Using examples of both appropriate and inappropriate behavior, Weiss shows us what signs to look for and how to deal. 』
(Cruise Control) 『Being that I am a gay man in SA; a sex addiction recovery program as well as having over 20 yrs sobriety in AA I am no slouch in terms of recognizing when something this informative and compelling arrives on the scene. I found this book to cover most of the tools and information that I have gleaned over the years in one concise presentation, I like the way that it is presentled in a non-pretentious sort of way that I occasionally find in this type of book, where someone writes about that which they have no personal experience. Thank you for inspiring presentation.』
(You may find why your sexual life is so problematic for you) 『After reading this book you'll finally understand what was happening to you that motivaded you to endless cruising while isolated you from your friends, familiy, hobbies and joy. What is great about this book is it not only makes you understand sex addiction, it gives you many information about how to recover from it. I also think it is valuable reading for every gay/bi men since it helps in distinguishing to what degree one's sexual adventures are or are not an addictive behaviour. This book must be translated to other languages fast!』 『
Robert Weiss, director of the Sexual Recovery Institute in Santa Monica, California, avoids political and moral arguments and instead focuses on the clinical approach, asking the question, "Is your sexual behavior causing problems in other areas of your life?"Cruise Controlleads men to a better understanding of the difference between sexual compulsion and non-addictive sexual behavior within the gay experience, and it explains what resources are available for recovery. A timely and important contribution to the body of recovery literature,Cruise Controlprovides understanding, empathy and encouragement to gay men seeking healthy sexual expression.
price：$4.87
Bella Books
Not yet published 『To win a spot in an elite workshop for studio photographers, Leonora Westcott must put together an extensive portfolio. Her efforts--and inspiration--get a boost when Claudia Galloway, a teacher intern in town for only a few months, volunteers to model.
For Claudia, the sensual poses offer one last chance to flaunt her independence before settling into the scripted life her wealthy fiancé has planned for them in California's exclusive San Simeon community.
Leo has always seen her subjects as objects of shadow and light on the other side of her lens--until now. Every photograph of Claudia brings her feelings into sharper focus, feelings she fears Claudia will never share. As their series of sessions come to a close, Leo decides to risk her heart. But Claudia has declarations of her own.』
price：$3.51
Alyson Books
Usually ships in 24 hours Core2Duoノートレビュー 's review (Really very Revealing!) 『I truly enjoyed this book. My second gay relationship self help book and I was very impressed with his analysis and stories. I really think it has helped me improve the way I look at potential relationships. I would recommend this.』
(Very helpful!) 『This is one of Joe's best! It was extremely helpful at a crucial time』
(Probably the best book out there on understanding and improving gay relationships) 『I bought this book for a friend for christmas, but after I'd wrapped all the presents, I ended up with it left over, couldn't remember who I bought it for, so kept it for myself. That turned out to be a wonderful serendipity.
Kort's work is probably the most deeply insightful exploration I've read of the influences of family of origin issues, internalized homophobia, and other baggage that gay men experience, and how those factors, as well as subtle peer influences within the gay community and other factors affect us, and, in turn, how we select partners and how we relate to them.
I've read a lot of the psychology literature, both clinical and popular, on gay men and the special issues they face, but I think Kort has done the best job yet of weaving all of the pieces together in a way that is insightful and really helps the reader understand *why* we choose the partners we do, the actions we take that are driven by our unconscious, and particularly how all of the behaviors we bring to relationships have their roots in our childhood and other internalized life experiences.
Some of the insights he describes in the case histories of couples he has worked with are just extraordinary, as though finding the "needle in a haystack" that is the root cause of a partner's insecurities or inappropriate actions/behaviors. Almost everyone reading the book will find portions of the book that will resonate with their own experience, and there were several times when I was reading it where I experienced major "Aha" moments as it described feelings or behaviors I'd experienced but could never quite explain or understand.
This book is apparently not as popular as his first book, probably because it is not a breezy, shallow book that you can read with little life impact; this is a book packed with useful information, and while it takes some time to absorb and understand and integrate what he's saying, it is well worth the effort.
I've since bought copies for two other friends, and both have enjoyed it as much as I did.
If you only buy one book on gay relationships (or, for that matter, emotional adjustment issues and happiness for gay men), I believe this is the book you should buy. 』
(A MOST IMPORTANT WORK FOR ALL GAY MEN AND THOSE WHO LOVE THEM) 『A well-rounded, honest and powerful book that should be on everyone's shelf. The author has done made a masterful job of speaking the truth to this often overlooked, misguided topic. I have used his writings with my own clients and in my own life. Joe Kort is not only a scholar, but a gentleman. I cannot imagine how or WHY anyone would say anything less than positive about his work (or ANY of his books, for that matter). He might just turn out to be the single, most important author to write on this subject. This is a ground-breaking book and strongly recommended. I cannot wait for your next one !』
(Helpful and Useful) 『I found this book very useful, both for myself and in practice. The language is straightforward and easy to understand, so it can be useful for people who don't have a background in psychology or other helping professions. The book has offered insight into my relationships and ways to work on future ones. I liked the examples as concrete and real people who have dealt with these issues. Of course not all of the examples are going to end well though. Some needed to move on as Mr. Kort pointed out. I would recommend this book to any gay man who has ever been in or wants to be in a relationship, whether romantic or otherwise.』 『
The author of the best-selling10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Improve Their Livesturns his attention to the burning question of love. "There are few books for gay men on not only what to look for in Mr. Right but how to become Mr. Right. My book will address both. It is not just about finding him, it is what you do after you find him," says author Joe Kort. A certified Imago Relationship Therapist, Kort has employed the ideas put forth by Imago founder Harville Hendrix to transform the lives and relationships of the countless gay couples he has worked with in 20 years of private practice. In "Your Sexual Shadow," one of his new book's 10 life-altering chapters, Kort unveils a surprising and groundbreaking idea that explores how decoding sexual fantasies can often unlock the mystery to what gay men are looking for in a partner and why. This will be particularly elucidating to men who have been conditioned to believe their sexual fantasies are an obstacle to long-term relationships. How can the secret logic of "dark" sexual desires help you find Mr. Right? "So many of my clients say they have to get better before they find Mr. Right," reports Kort. "I think that is often a reason to avoid relationships and simply not true." His new book is a practical guide to set gay men on the path to true love today.
Joe Kortis a therapist in private practice since 1985, specializing in gay-affirmative psychotherapy as well as Imago Relationship Therapy, which is a specific program involving communication exercises designed for couples to enhance their relationship and for singles to learn relationship skills. His first book,10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Improve Their Lives, was a national gay and lesbian bestseller.
price：$2.03
Graywolf Press
Usually ships in 24 hours Core2Duoノートレビュー 's review (The Time of the Doves) 『I read this book, and now I have to give a report on it. I found the people's reviews to be most helpful.(thank you!) I think the "new" title, "The Time of the Doves" now packs a bigger punch. I have been thinking a lot about the connection between the title and Natalia's (Colometa's) life and stream of thoughts. I can see how her life really was not peaceful. She struggled constantly to survive. The pivotal moment, I thought, was when she let out that scream in the Placa del Diamant near the end of the novel. I thought it sort of symbolized her letting go of all that had happened in her life. Does anyone else have anymore insights on this moment? Please comment back! Regardless, I really enjoyed the book. There was a nasty part about the tapeworm Quimet had that totally grossed me out! But the detail Rodereda writes is brilliant. "The Time of the Doves" is truly is a Catalan masterpiece.』
(blown away) 『I heard this novel discussed on NPR during a segment on underappreciated writers. It grabbed ahold of me from the 1st sentence - the writing is very deep and moving. The takeaway, for me, is the effect of living with war and conflict on one's psyche.』
(Tour-de-force) 『What a terrific story. Set during the turbulent years of the Spanish Civil War and dictatorship, of the 1930's and 40's, the novel traces the mediocre and often turbulent life of Natalia, nicknamed "Colometa", through difficult years of famine and depression, as a young mother and unskilled laborer in Catalonia. We're not talking about an overtly political novel here: this is a story of the human condition, the suffering that any one of us endures at some point in our individual lives. The author scarcely mencions political struggle, nor does she take sides; the dominant theme here is the perpetual plight of a passive yet resiliant female who fights for survival in a brutal and depressed urban environment. The first person narration creates a wonderful tone. The narrator is soulful, spontaneous, and often gutwrenching. Her language is extremely natural and authentic. The prose reads as if it were a transcription of someone's internal thought process: unpredictable yet familiar. The reader forms an intense emotional bond with the narrative voice that leads to an abundance of tear-jerking moments. This is the kind of novel that you become attatched to, whether you are a casual reader or a literature scholar. I picked it up an couldn't put it down. Lastly this novel represents a keen example of true minority struggle under the harsh conditions of a dictatorship. Its original language of publication, Catalan, was prohibited in 1939 by the Spanish government, and therefore, its mere existance is an act of rebellion. Don't confuse this female story of survival with the sappy victimist writers of the Gloria Anzaldua type - "Colometa" is a real survivor, whose struggle inspires compassion and reflection.』
(A Life During Conflict) 『This novel, written by Merce Rodoreda during her exile from Spain and well after the Spanish Civil War, describes the life of a woman who grows from young adulthood through middle age during political upheaval. She could have described war, or poverty, or death, or fear, and appealed solely to sentiment but she does not. This novel is rich and complex, appealing to both sense and sensation. Her protagonist, Quimet, is usually sympathetic but sometimes not, as most human beings are.
While the Spanish Civil War is the setting for this novel, Rodoreda writes outside the lines and makes a book which describes this specific place and anyplace. To give context to other reviewers' displeasure with the translated title of La Placa del Diamante, Franco forbid Catalans, the residents of Barcelona and Merce Rodoreda among them, to speak their own language. Language is primary to Catalans and Rodoreda was a Catalan writer despite Franco.
Rodoreda writes tangible descritions of poverty and unhappiness, sliding back and forth from the concrete outside world and the narrator's sometimes dreamy interior world. The shifts in description themselves describe how Quimet's consciousness is altered by poverty, by hunger, by death and by redemption.
This is an excellent and thoughtful novel, and a pleasure to read.』
(Emotionally Powerful) 『This is an amazingly powerful book. It is narrated by a young girl in Spain just before, during, and after the Spanish Civil War. The style is something like stream-of-consciousness. The narrator is niave and almost somewhat passive in her life. She describes herself as lacking the guidance of a mother, as her mother died, and in many ways lacking the love of her father, who, after her mother's death, remains mostly silent. For this reason, she is left to find her own way.
The book begins with Natalia's courtship by Quimet, her eventual husband. The entire episode is wonderfully wrought - Natalia is very naive and pretty much accepts whatever Quimet does (and he's not always the nicest guy).
Natalia lives through the war, and the book does an amazing job of conveying what we today would term "post-traumatic stress disorder." After starving and living in fear, Natalia is never really the same. But of course, like many, she doesn't understand what she feels and, in fact, makes no attempt to understand. And that is the power of book - it shows us what she feels, it is not explicit, it arouses the emotion and leaves you powerfully affected.』 『The Time of the Doves, the powerfully written story of a naïve shop-tender during the Spanish Civil War and beyond, is a rare and moving portrait of a simple soul confronting and surviving a convulsive period in history. The book has been widely translated, and was made into a film. 』
price：$2.79
Torquere Press
Usually ships in 24 hours Core2Duoノートレビュー 's review (Lot's of sex mixed with a bit of a story) 『Bite takes you a journey of a werewolf (Anton) finding it's mate (Greg). The journey itself is indifferent and the characters a generic without depth and any kind of background.
The primary ingredient in this book sex. For my part, too much - roughly 40 to 50 percent of the content. This doesn't leaves much space for a story, which is also the main downside of this book: the (real) story begins in the middle of the book and improves over the second half - but it just ends unfinished. Like a bad season finale on TV.
// SPOILER ON I've asked myself many times throughout the book: where is Anton coming from, how did he make his money? Or where did Greg get his tattoo or even learn how to cook? // SPOILER OFF
These are only a few of the unanswered questions in the book.
So, should you buy this book?
Ask yourself: do I you like sex, food, a combination of both ... and lot's of it ... mixed with *ahm* more sex and food, you will like this book. If you're looking for a good story, try a different book.』
(This is erotica, not emotional romance) 『Warning: This review might contain what some people consider SPOILERS.
Rating: 7/10
PROS: - The sex is hot. Graphic, rough (but not overly so), intense. Pervasive. (see cons below also) - I liked the characters. However, I've read the book twice now; I first read it about 6 months ago and decided to read it again before writing a review, and I don't remember liking the characters as much the first time I read it as I do now, after the second. (I'm also about halfway through the sequel, Bitten, which is contributing to my affection for the characters as well, I'm sure.) - Gradual progression of the main characters' relationship. There's no "love at first sight" stuff here; they're attracted to each other physically, then they spend a while honing the ability to push each other's sexual buttons, and eventually the sexual possessiveness turns into emotional possessiveness, which then turns into love. - Good description of wolves' thoughts and instincts. Each author tends to treat his/her characters' thoughts differently when the characters are in wolf form. J.L. Langley's Without Reservations shows one character whose thoughts are no different when he's in wolf form than when he's in human form, whereas Rowan McBride's Lone depicts a man whose wolf form's thoughts are single-minded and simplistic. The wolf thoughts in Bite are somewhere between those two extremes.
CONS: - So much sex that there's very little plot. VERY little. The first really suspenseful, intriguing moment of the book occurs on page 100 (up to then, it's 80% sex and 20% cooking and talking), and then the next mention of the conflict doesn't occur until page 170. What little plot the book has is described so sparsely that the story's potentially suspenseful moments are over so quickly I couldn't get wound up about them at all. - The sex gets monotonous. I can hardly blame Michael for this, though, because there is, quite literally, a sex scene (or two, or three) in every chapter save maybe two. This is THE most sex-filled erotic romance I've read. And on top of the sheer pervasiveness of sex, the characters use the same position and the same dialog over and over again. - The possessiveness of the characters got old. I've come to accept the use of the word "mine" at some point in most m/m romances, though I've never felt the urge to say that to anyone myself. But it must occur 50 times in this book. And that's probably a conservative estimate.
Overall comments: If you're looking for graphic erotica, this is a good choice. If you want a plot (at all) and/or deep, wrenching emotional connection between the two main characters, you should look elsewhere.』
(99% sex, 1% story) 『The story was good, I just wish there was more of it. the 100 pages was sex and food, sex, and food, sex, sex, food. i like sex, i like food, but, there was soo much, it was boring. the little bit of story that came in towards the end of the book, was good, just not enough. if u like to read about sex, go for it, there is lots and it's well written. if u want a story to go with it, don't get this one, it's too hard to find.』
(Give Us More) 『This is my first read for gay erotica, and I have to say I made a great choice. I loved it so much I read more of Mr.Michael's Work, And I hope that he plans to finish this story. A great ready for anyone who wants an Alpha male showing him who's boss.』
(bite me!) 『got this at pride, loved it! finished it before the fest was over, truly a good naughty book』 『Anton loves a well-prepared steak. That's all he's hoping for when he meets Greg, his new live-in chef. Flamboyant and confident, Greg attracts Anton immediately, and he finds himself wanting to know Greg better. Much better. It's not just a normal attraction for Anton. He's an unusual man, with unusual desires, and Greg seems to be filling a place in Anton's life that he's never explored. Anton prefers to be a civilized man and not let his werewolf self run free, but it’s the wolf that wants to claim Greg for a mate. Someone disapproves of Anton's relationship with Greg. Someone close to Anton, someone inside his carefully controlled household. As he and Greg come closer and closer to mating for life, the danger gets nearer, forcing them to depend on each otherto stay safe, and for Greg to stay sane. Can Anton convince Greg that his wolf would never hurt him and keep Greg safe from the menace outside their relationship, too? Sexy, razor sharp and fast-paced, Bite will keep your heart racing!』
price：$4.78
Cleis Press
Usually ships in 24 hours Core2Duoノートレビュー 's review (Steamy and Explicit) 『Labonte, Richard. "Boycrazy: Coming Out Erotica", C leis Press, 2009.
Steamy and Explicit
Amos Lassen
Seventeen authors have written coming out stories for Richard Labonte's new anthology about first sexual experiences. All of the stories celebrate lust, sex and love but the difference is the stories are about first encounters. Editor Labonte is something of a legend in the field of gay literature and especially erotica. This collection is a bit of departure for him in that it deals exclusively with the younger generation---it is a collection of first times; first time lust, first time in bed with another guy, first time discovering love. Some of the authors you may recognize and there is a lot of talent here. These are story about young men and the young men they are crazy about. We have college students,we have hook ups, we have crushes and we have lots of sex. I found all of the stories to be interesting and of course I have a few favorites. Ron Wolfsham's "The Viking" is one of those. It is the story of a college freshman (unnamed) who lusts for a tall, red-headed, tall guy who resembles a Viking and is a football player. In Jeffrey Rounds' "This is Not Your Country", Warden goes on a wild ride with a biker and in "A Beautiful Motorcycle" by Jere M. Fishback, a young guy shares a hotel room with his sister's boyfriend and learns a different meaning of room service. What all of the stories do is reawaken those feelings of what it was like to be fresh, young and gay and what that first time was like. 』 『
An explicit collection of young adult erotica,Boy Crazyexplores in heady detail the“first time:” the first time feeling lustful toward another boy, the first time falling into bed with a peer, the first time discovering love with another young man. This youthful collection relishes the thrill of being crazy for a certain boy, for a moment or for a lifetime. In Jere M. Fishback’s “A Beautiful Motorcycle,” a young man shares a hotel room with his sister’s boyfriend and experiences a whole new kind of room service. Guitar lessons give way to instructions of a more amorous variety in L.A. Field’s “Summertime Blues.” Mesmerized by two hot young bikers, Warden finds himself taking a ride on the wild side in Jeffrey Rounds’ “This Is Not Your Country.” These and other stories of sexual awakening vividly evoke the trembling, heart-pounding, sweaty-palmed excitement of the first time.
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