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Joe Kort
price: 478
Alyson Books
Usually ships in 24 hours customer 's review (Amazing Book ANY Gay Man Can Benefit From)    
(Insightful and filled with hope)    
(Personal Transformation)    
(Extremely useful)    
(Psychodynamic approaches dead?)   Despite what others on here have written in reviews on here I found this book to be amazingly helpful. I am 40 years old and the section on coming out may have benefited me more when I was younger but I still was able to learn from each chapter in the book.
It has helped me to better understand myself and my interactions with others. Also, as much as I hate to admit it this book also helped me realize my own internalized homophobia and heterosexism.
This has also helped me in my relationships with friends and others. I now can now understand how things in my past "shadows" creep in to current events. Realizing them and dealing with them in a different way has been very beneficial to me and the man I am dating.
Having made mistakes in the past I am on a path to learning to being "A better man capable of living a better life and making emotionally healthy choices".
I have purchased this book for friends and recommended it and "10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Find Real Love" to dozens of people.
I found this a great read. I am starting to put it into practice. Coming out to everyone, making gay friends, and searching for Mr. Right. This is a must read.
Any married, bi, gay male will unlock a better understanding as to how our past can and will affect our current behavior. Although, Mr. Kort could have added more descriptive examples of the hardships gay men face and how we all can overcame them. I'm speaking as an international spokesman for the gay and straight community specializing in support for "the other man," caught in a triangular moral dilemma, being involved with a married man.
The married gay men that attend my confidential AOL support group could use the hope and encouragement that Mr. Kort offers.
Dennis Schleicher Author of an explosive and controversial memoir; Forbidden Love with a Married Man: E-mail Diaries Any gay guy looking to enrich his life and relationships, and better understand how the past can affect present behavior, will benefit from this book. Written in a down to earth style, Kort manages to be informative without being preachy, and it's clear that he cares deeply about men who care about other men. I read this book a while ago and it inspired me to read some of Harville Hendrix' books. What struck me as oddly salient, though, about Joe Kort's book is the large number of people who seem to drop out of therapy with him and go on and self-destruct. Wouldn't that make one look at his approach skeptically? Could it be that the careful investigation of one's relationship with one's parents and its effects on later life is a psychological dead-end? That's both Kort's and Hendrix' approach. Kort's own book, if read critically, would suggest that maybe it is not helpful.
This is not to say that I didn't get some interesting insights from Ten Smart Things. It's intriguing to think that your partner's complaints about you represent what you most need to attend to, and that you got into the relationship to address them in the first place. It's a useful thought because it reinforces commitment.
However, psychology has taken a decidedly cognitive turn as of late. Pondering deep drives seems less useful now than attending to thinking. Perhaps more lives could be improved by reading Beck, Tannen, Seligman, Ellis, and Csikszentmihalyi than this volume. Of course, none of those authors looks as cute as Joe Kort. . .
Openly gay therapist Joe Kort provides 10 powerful and positive steps gay men can take to isolate and overcome self-defeating behavior patterns, and move in healthier and more rewarding directions: Take Charge of Their Own Lives Affirm Themselves by Coming Out Resolve Differences With Parents and Relatives "Graduate" From Delayed Adolescence Avoid-or Overcome-Sexual Addiction -Learn from Successful Mentors Who've Been There, Done That Take Advantage of "Therapy Workouts" Achieve-and Maintain-Rewarding Relationships Understand the Stages of Loves Commit to Their Partner These solid and reliable "Top 10" life steps that have been most helpful to Joe Kort's clients in his 16 years of working with hundreds of gay men, are presented in an engaging and easy-to-understand manner and are supplemented by case histories from his practice. These are time-tested, practical decisions gay men can make in their search for emotional, sexual and personal fulfillment. Joe Kort, MA, MSW, ACSW, is a psychotherapist in private practice in Detroit. In addition, he is certified as an Imago therapist and leads two biannual workshop retreats, For Gay Men: The Retreat of a Lifetime, which helps gay men recover from being a stigmatized population, and Getting the Love You Want Couples' Weekend, which helps couples communicate more effectively. He is a member of the National Association of Social Workers, the Institute for Imago Relationship Therapy and the National Council on Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity. His writings on gay and lesbian issues appear regularly inBetween the Linesnewspaper and theDetroit Free Press. Rerations < Ten Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Improve Their Lives >
< 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Find Real Love >
< The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World >
< Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men >
< Gay and Single...Forever?: 10 Things Every Gay Guy Looking for Love (and Not Finding It) Needs to Know >
freaks
< Pet on Duty >
< I Want To Be Naughty >
< My Paranoid Next Door Neighbor (Yaoi) >
< The Crimson Spell >
< Dog Style Volume 2 (Dog Style) >
< Delivery Cupid >
price: 945
Boysenberry Books
customer 's review (Put your trust in this title...it's a fun read!)    
(Cute story!)    
(Sooo Cute)    
(hmm)  
(Nice and sappy sweet)    I like to indulge in yaoi from time-to-time, but usually I find it too campy or bland (or predictable) in plot to digest to the point of annoyance. So when I wanted to get a good boy's love manga into my library I surfed the reviews and decided to place my bet on this one. This was a pleasant surprise and purchase. The main character is extremely 'uke' in some areas and surprisingly NOT in others. I think other readers will find the few personality twists in this book enjoyably addictive. The rest of the cast in this book are funny to read about with Mizuki and Toru being a bittersweet combination. Even the guys from the upper-level dorms are hilarious in the few bits that they're shown involving owning cats in the place.
The story is dramatic, but still keeps a lot of light-hearted moments in it so that the relationship builds up realistically enough (given the fact that it's only one volume long). So you won't be investing a ton of time or money into this read. It's a fast-paced, cute, and hot little manga that's now being passed around to my other friends with "TWO THUMBS UP!!" as the overall response when returned. And my fellow readers are individuals who are into titles with strong character archetypes (Wallflower, Skip Beat, Princess Resurrection, etc...). In short, I think a great deal of individuals looking for a good yaoi manga to indulge in will find themselves satiated by PET ON DUTY. I really enjoyed Pet on Duty. I've re-read it several times and it has yet to get old. Mizuki (uke) is someone with no luck at jobs who just wants to be independent. Kudou (seme) is a work-a-holic with a secret. When the two meet, there is clear chemistry between the two.
Pet on Duty does have a couple yaoi-type scenes, but for the most part, the manga concentrates more on plot then smut. If you want a manga to read with good characters and good plot, this is the manga for you. This manga is absolutely adorable with a very cute uke. The story is very funny and will definitely brighten your day! this wasn't a bad one. if all you want is sex then this isn't the one for you. really nothing happens but it is a cute story nonetheless. if you want to read something cute then you might like this one. Sometimes you want men who look like men and sometimes you might be in the mood for a cute uke. This one has the cutie uke, cat ears and all. Mizuki needs a place to stay so he lives with his brother in his dorm (seems like an apartment to me though, translation differences). He becomes the "Pet" of the floor with all of the floor mates bringing him gifts of food, one even gets him a cat toy. If you are looking for a sweet story with both parties knowing what they want (sort of) then this is for you. There are a few intimates kissing and groping scenes but nothing really graphic, even the one time near the end isn't really graphic either.
Mizuki just lost his job. Without money or a place to live, he has no choice but to stay with his older brother in his company dorm room. Since non-employees aren't allowed in the dorms, Mizuki must live there in secret like a house cat. At first he’s intimidated by his older brother’s roommate Toru, but seeing a softer side of Toru changes his opinion. Toru treats Mizuki well, but Mizuki wants to become more than a pet companion in this sophisticated homoerotic manga by one of the genre’s superstars. Rerations < Pet on Duty >
< I Want To Be Naughty >
< My Paranoid Next Door Neighbor (Yaoi) >
< The Crimson Spell >
< Dog Style Volume 2 (Dog Style) >
freaks
< A Matter of Trust >
< In Pursuit of Justice >
< Shield of Justice >
< Justice in the Shadows >
< Justice Served >
< Love&Honor >
Radclyffe
price: 510
Bold Strokes Books
Usually ships in 24 hours customer 's review (I'm reading it again)    
(Get this First)    
(Beautiful Romance set in Philadelphia)    
(Radclyffe...kudos again)    
(This is as Good as It Gets)     This is a prequel to the Justice Series as has been mentioned before.
Michael, blond and beautiful, fears that her soon-to-be-divorced-from husband (though business partner is a better description) will do anything to keep control of the business that they built with all of Michael's ideas, visions and dreams. Since much of the information exists in the company computer network, she knows that she must make sure that her information is safe. She hires J.T. Sloan, and Sloan's assistant Jason (also known as Jasmine, another side of Jason)to help her with all of the computing security requirements. Suspicious computer crashes occur that only Sloan and Jason can fix but can they do it in time? Sloan soon awakens a side of Michael that she never knew existed, for anyone, and Sloan is terrified of the feelings that she herself is having for Michael. Enjoy this book. I know that I did! If you are wanting to get into the Justice series by our bard Radclyffe you must get this book first. It is a good stand alone book. Michael and Sloan are just two characters that I just enjoyed reading and learning about. Not a lot of action in this one but the strength of the characters makes up for it big time! Micheal beautiful and CEO of a company she helped create. Trying to hang on to what she made from a really bad breakup of a marriage. Sloan a computer specialist specializing in security. She has a past that no one seems to know about, at least not all of it. Night and day at its best. Bravo You will love the characters (some are quite fascinating). I particularly like Michael (very composed and believable). I couldn't get enough of the characters back story.
Do not miss this book. This is a keeper!
This from the publisher's web site - Michael Lassiter, a theoretical design executive, is about to wage war on the corporate battlefield as she fights to maintain control of her company in the midst of divorce. She hires JT Sloan, an internet security consultant, to protect her most important asset-her dreams and visions, which are suddenly vulnerable within the corporate computer system. Sloan, a brilliant cybersleuth who steadfastly avoids emotional commitments, shares a painful, secret past with her associate and friend, Jason McBride. Sarah Martin, a gentle practitioner of eastern medicine, searches for a way to heal a damaged soul. These four very different individuals, each wounded by personal betrayal, find their lives becoming ever more inextricably bound as they struggle to trust, and to love, again. I think the evolving relationship between Michael and Sloan is heart-warming. I've read this book several time because it makes me feel good.
Sloan and Jason's computer skills put me in awe.
Jason is quite the looker as Jasmin.
Sensational novel. The plot of this book is as described elsewhere.
Whether you read Radclyffe's series books, like the Justice series or the Honor series or the Provincetown series, or you read one of her stand-alone romances, you can not go wrong.
I have been reading lesbian fiction for many years, and can honestly say that I have never come across a writer that has so affected me. Her characters are strong, intelligent, and romantic. Naysayers will say that Radclyffe's characters are too perfect almost never flawed - either in looks or character. That may be true, but aren't you tired of the genre's penchant for ordinary? Radclyffe's characters are always enchanting, intoxicating, enticing, and intense. The stories, particularly in the series books, are all first class. Most of her series books are page-turners. And in two of the books, I actually turned to the last page to make sure that the main characters survived - something I never do.
Radclyffe let us believe, at least for the duration of each of her books, that the grand passion, the true love, the happy-ever-after are all possible. She lets us believe that being a strong, intelligent woman does not mean that we will be alone and/or isolated.
The only caveat I have is to read the series books in order. And if you enjoy watching a writer grow, then read the non-series books in the order they were written and watch Radclyffe's talent grow before your very eyes.
Rerations < A Matter of Trust >
< In Pursuit of Justice >
< Shield of Justice >
< Justice in the Shadows >
< Justice Served >
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< Epistemology of the Closet >
< Gender Trouble: Feminism and the Subversion of Identity (Routledge Classics) >
< The History of Sexuality, Vol. 1: An Introduction >
< Bodies That Matter: On the Discursive Limits of Sex >
< Undoing Gender >
< Between Men: Literature and Male Homosocial Desire >
Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick
price: 734
University of California Press
Usually ships in 24 hours customer 's review (The Closet Isn't Where It Ued To Be-)    
(The "Problem" with Conceptual Schemes, New and Old)  
(Deep wading)
(...Theory should always be so good)    
(Seminal work in a fledgling field of academic research.)    Most surveys of sexual variations seen in the historical context fail to take into account that sexuality has been defined and categorized differently in almost every era and culture. In western cultures, the current sexual categories became defined somewhere between the Civil War and world War I. In other words, there were no homosexuals (in the modern sense) before the Civil War. There were men who loved, and sometimes slept with, other men, but they didn't form a separate category. Social opprobrium was reserved for the practice of sodomy, whether it was practiced between men or men and women. Having sex with other men was simply something that wasn't discussed in public, although it happened all the time. Ms. Sedgwick has taken on the task of seeking to discover just how it is that we came by our current ideas of sexuality, why, for instance, that we seem to think that everyone is either heterosexual or homosexual, ignoring the reality that according to Kinsey, the vast majority are bisexually attracted, to at least some degree. She also examines the ways in which the public discussion of sexuality has changed and developed in the critical years between the two wars, using literature of the period for her sources. She contends, in my opinion successfully, that the gay/straight debate is the key issue for western culture, in terms of defining person-hood. Western culture has become obsessed with sex. It follows then, that issues of the conflict between the private and public spheres is central to her discussion. On the minus side, her prose is uneven, sometimes beautiful, sometimes turgid to the point of constipation. Her analyses are uneven, as well. I would have preferred a more thorough analysis of fewer examples, Billy Budd in particular. Taken on the whole, it's an important work by an important thinker who has added substantially to the discussion of sexuality and gender studies, well worth the effort required to read it with comprehension. The August 11, 1999 "a reader" comments about Sedgwick's prose is especially valuable. The tendency to "abuse" language, in J. L. Austin's famous phrase, seems pronounced in Francophile and postmodernist writings, as if obscuritanism is a measure of profundity rather than a measure of obscuritanism. Several critics have justly claimed that unintelligibile writing and ideation only expose unintelligibility.
What could have been a provocative inquiry into the uniqueness of each human being (a novel, but now confirmed, fact, originating in Darwinian theory), once again reverts to a series of ideological templates to overlay the diversity of being and experience to "fit" a new paradigm. The dominant template here is the binary homosexual/heterosexual dichotomy, which Sedgwick insists is the prism by which we come to have knowledge of our world (I hope my effort at intelligibility does not misrepresent her views.)
Of course, the use of ideological templates laid over an inquiry is nothing new. Critical theory, Marxist theory, Freudian theory, and now Queer theory are variants of the same methodology. If one accepts the ideological template, then the subsequent examination under that template achieves a knowledge (i.e., epistemology) within the limits of that template, but generates a new conceptual scheme. Ironically, the ostensible purpose of the ideological template is to liberate thought from the status quo by forcing thought through an alternative sieve. The "insight" derived from this process becomes subversive of the status quo, but only to impose an different status quo that is putatively superior to the existent one.
According to psychology and anthropology, humans "by nature" impose categorical thinking on experience in order to "frame the reference" and "give order" to chaotic particularism of individual experience. This notion is no longer controversial, indeed, it is "obvious," with aetiology as far back to Hebraism and Hellenism, differing only in the templates used. So, instead of breaking the mold, the new theorists create new ones. Akin to Kuhn's paradigm shift applied outside science, we are prodded to look anew at the old phenomena.
But one of Darwin's keenest insights is the uniqueness of all living things, despite similarities. Instead of the essentialist thinking we inherited from Greek metaphysics and epistemology, we're told by Darwinians that we must use "population thinking," where "grouping" of things is by common descent, not our morphological, behavioral, or ideological similarities. I suggest this same motif applies to sexual populations, sexual expressions, and sexual orientation. Kinsey and others who have insisted on a continuum of orientation differences along a line between the polarities of opposites is truer to the truth than a "homosexual essence" or "heterosexual essence." The appellation of "gay" and "straight" are nominalist, not essentialist, groupings, where each appellation picks out a wide variety of differences by our conceptual schemes of categorization and understanding of populations, not by any essence. If true, and I believe it is, why revert to binary templates of essences to lay over the variety of differences as if one aspect, however shared, must then define many others as well?
Same-sex and opposite-sex relations are not as "neat and tidy" as theorists want us to believe, nor do they exist only in polarity, but rather along a continuum with yet another point between any other two points. Within different populations one finds vast varieties of sexual orientation and expression, not to mention vast differences in other facets of the human being, that homo- and hetero-sexual appellations conflate. To then use these conflated nominalisms as departure points (i.e., templates) for further inquiry only boxes in the subject further, thus undermining difference itself. Instead of nominalist pluralism one becomes both a reductionist and an essentialist to further categorize what is already tenuous at best. This paradigm shift in turn becomes its own raison d'etre further undermining uniqueness so that a new consensus of a new conceptual scheme can be forged.
Consequently, these projects have their own slippery slopes I'd prefer not to slide into. They all strike me as yet another "ideology" in the service of liberation, subverting one status quo for another, categorizing more categories, until we fit the new paradigm. I think we have had enough experience with this methodology to stop it before it starts.
Indeed, the courage to be authentic suggests the enterprise is not only subversive of the status quo, but subversive of our authenticity as well. Being unique, and therefore different, is both a starting and ending point, not a place to begin new essentialist programs to "fit" yet another putatively "new" conceptual scheme. Ugh, a tough, tough book to read. I found myself really bogged down by this book and looked more forward just to getting through it than actually getting anything out of it. Sedgewick's style is definately not for me, but if you can get past the thick writing style you may be able to glean some interesting points from it. According to the writer Avital Ronell, in his youth Kant wanted to be a poet. Fortunately for us, perhaps, he turned to philosophy instead. Through this turn Kant ended up setting the standard towards which most academics currently strive: a zero-degree style (which Lyotard both attempts to mime and identifies as naive in the preface to The Differend). What this does, essentially, is provide the rather stupid (and perpetually misrecognized) effect that an author is objective, sound, and important. Most of the time, authors are none of these.People may disagree with me, but I find Sedgwick's style gorgeous and memorable. This may make the book difficult to read, but it also can make it quite a pleasure, and what else could one want from a well-informed, well-argued, politically necessary academic intervention? For people deterred by Sedgwick's prose, I suggest you go pick up something more simple-minded. Whoever thought that reading a book shouldn't be a challenge? Who actually believes that one shouldn't struggle with difficult and new ideas? The Epistemology of the Closet is a necessary book. Sedgwick's thoughts on ignorance and power (in response to Foucault's coupling of knowledge/power) are incredible. Her readings of Bowers v. Hardwick, the homosexual panic defense, and figurations of homosexuality are more than insightful: they are powerful critiques and exposes of the way that homophobia operates and is legitimated in contemporary American culture. Please please read this book. Read it twice or three times. Try it again and again. Each time you return, I promise you, you'll be startled by the ideas that come out, and hopefully, they'll mobilize you to do something more with them. Take it to the next level and keep reading. This scholarly text is the second academic publication by Sedgwick, who has made a name for herself by becoming one of the prominent researchers of 'queer theory'. Sedgwick is a professor of English at Duke University. In this book, she elaborates her focus on the study of male homosexuality in Western texts, and so reads between the lines, as it were, of mainly canonical works by authors such as Melville, Wilde, James and Proust for signs of obscure queer themes and subtexts.Sedgwick's main argument is as follows: she believes that homosexuality - male and lesbian - tends to be represented in both society and in literature as though it were an unstable, even deviant or perverse alternative to the fixed norm of heterosexuality. Homosexuality is all too often a thing of 'the closet'; it is a secret waiting to come out; it is the 'love that dare not speak its name'. In Sedgwick's preface to this book, she introduces a note of urgent contemporaneity to her writing that continually resurfaces later on. Clearly, Sedgwick perceives an urgent topicality in her subject matter. This argument is sound. The execution is mostly fine. Occasionally Sedgwick seems to truncate her examination of works as soon as she has provided us with the bare outlines of their queer subtexts. For instance, she tells us that Claggart in Melville's 'Billy Budd' is gay, and that his testimony against the short story's title character contains an array of important, yet pervasively subtle, sexual connotations. Sometimes this approach borders dangerously on dispensing cheap thrills as Sedgwick proceeds to list terms that constitute sexual innuendo. Having done this, she does not try to link other themes in 'Billy Budd' - issues of legality, of social hierarchies and of mutiny - with the theme of homosexuality. Thus she doesn't always carry her analysis far enough. Why is Claggart gay, but not Billy Budd himself, or any of the other sailors aboard the Bellipotent for that matter? Why does Sedgwick make this seemingly petty distinction when the text itself is, as she rightly argues, deliberately secretive to the extent that it is refuses to make such details explicit? Still, this is an admirable and well-intentioned effort to create a foundation for further studies of queer theory. At the same time Sedgwick tries to emphasize the broader social relevance of her concerns. But here's the final catch: her style of writing is so densely compacted, so obfuscatory, so Jamesian in its complex morass of never-ending clauses that it's bound to marginalize a potentially much larger audience than the one it has now. And so this text, which is relevant in one sense, is esoteric in another. Moreover, Sedgwick likes to combine eloquence with banal profanities as freely as she mixes readings of Proust with Willie Nelson. For those who are phased by such language games, this set of reviews is where your intimacy with Sedgwick ends. For those remaining, Sedgwick's writing is a rare treat. Since the late 1980s, queer studies and theory have become vital to the intellectual life of the U.S. This has been, to no small degree, due to the popularity of Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick's critically acclaimedEpistemology of the Closet. Working from classic texts of European and American writers--including Herman Melville, Henry James, Marcel Proust, and Oscar Wilde--Sedgwick delineates a historical moment in which sexual identity became as important a demarcation of personhood as gender had been for centuries.Sedgwick's literary analysis, while provocative and often startling (you will never readBilly BuddorThe Picture of Dorian Graythe same way again), is simply the basis for a larger project of examining and analyzing how the categories of "homosexual" and "heterosexual" continue to shape almost all aspects of contemporary thought.Epistemology of the Closetis a sometimes-dense work, but one filled with wit and empathy. Sedgwick writes with great intelligence and an eye for irony, but always makes clear that her theories and critical acumen are in the service of a politic that seeks to make the world a better and more humane place for everyone. An extraordinary book that reshapes how we think about literature, sexuality, and everyday life.--Michael Bronski Since the late 1980s, queer studies and theory have become vital to the intellectual and political life of the United States. This has been due, in no small degree, to the influence of Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick's critically acclaimedEpistemology of the Closet.Working from classic texts of European and American writers--including Melville, James, Nietzsche, Proust, and Wilde--Sedgwick analyzes a turn-of-the-century historical moment in which sexual orientation became as important a demarcation of personhood as gender had been for centuries. In her preface to this updated edition Sedgwick places the book both personally and historically, looking specifically at the horror of the first wave of the AIDS epidemic and its influence on the text. Rerations < Epistemology of the Closet >
< Gender Trouble: Feminism and the Subversion of Identity (Routledge Classics) >
< The History of Sexuality, Vol. 1: An Introduction >
< Bodies That Matter: On the Discursive Limits of Sex >
< Undoing Gender >
freaks
< Funny Boy (Harvest Book) >
< Cracking India: A Novel >
< Swimming in the Monsoon Sea >
< The God of Small Things >
< Cinnamon Gardens: A Novel >
< Interpreter of Maladies >
Shyam Selvadurai
price: 280
Harvest Books
Usually ships in 24 hours customer 's review (Amusing novel with little depth)  
(Must read)    
(The child's voice)   
(From a child's voice...)  
(Seems promising...) This book is an often amusing look at the coming of age of a young homosexual boy in Colombo, Sri Lanka in the late 1970s and early 1980s. The book starts out with a very funny description of Arjie, the protagonist, and his female cousins playing bride-bride. Arjie is passionate about the game and his role as bride and is very disappointed when his family discovers his penchant for girl games and forces him to play cricket. This is Arjie's first realization that people think he is "funny" - a code word for gay - and that he does not quite fit in to typical gender roles. As Arjie gets older, he becomes his mothers confidante as she enters into an inappropriate relationship with an old flame. At the same time, Arjie becomes more aware of his role as a Tamil in Sri Lankan society at a time when the Tamil Tigers were forming and tensions between dominant Sinhalese and Tamils are growing. Arjie also is forced to enter a tough all boys school, where his father hopes that he will become a man. Paradoxically, at this all boys school, Arjie realizes that he is indeed gay and embarks on his first homosexual relationship.
This is clearly a debut novel. While some of the anecdotes are humorous and the historical information on the Tamil-Sinhalese conflict is interesting, the author's style is shallow. There is insufficient depth to the novel and it seemed to be better suited to a mature high school audience (given the sexual content) rather than an adult audience. The book is at root a hallmark plea for tolerance, which makes it a feel good story. However, the writing is a bit jaunty and other than Arjie, the other characters are not well developed. I think the author is not sure which story he wants to tell - the Tamil story or the gay story - and does not do the best job of combining the two. Both of those stories are out there, but they seem to compete for attention in the novel.
Ultimately, this is an enjoyable first effort, but was disappointing in that the author did not do more with the novel. [close] I love this book. This book has become so personal to me. I too am from Sri Lanka. However i was born during the decade, which is the 1980s, where things got worse between the Tamils and Sinhalese. This book is the first book where I can truly understand the landscape of Srilanka, because I am from there, where I can understand the character's final destination to Canada, leaving their homeland to a strange new world, because of our differences. The homosexual element of this novel may seem as the focal point of this novel, however coming of age for this main character, the young boy, is not the only element. He loses his innocence because of the butchery that surrounds him, from the start to the end, and the homosexual, where he finds love is the only innocent thing that he holds to himself. This novel is so close to home, the main character's father reminds me of my father who too used to hope so much of his home, but is forced to flee because of the war. My father keeps on repeating Sri lanka could be a great land, but it is destroyed for tamils anyways.I recommend this novel to be read by all srilankans, tamils and sinhalese and the burghers. And everyone in the world. It is such a beautiful novel. What I loved best about Funny Boy was the first story, Pig's Can't Fly. The author captures the voice of the seven year old Sri Lankan protagonist, vividly, for the adult, mostly western audience. The character Arjie, is well developed for the story, and as a reader I could "feel" his emotions, his fears, his gradual grasp of the adult world. I wouldn't classify the novel as solely gay literature, just as I wouldn't classify Frank McCourt's Angela's Ashes as "straight" literature. Although part of it deals with the character coming out of the closet, the novel is also about the innocence of childhood, and society's expectations of how one should grow up.
I thoroughly enjoyed reading the rest of the stories, and found the last one about the riots frightening. If Michael Ondaatje described the inhumanity of the Sri Lankan ethnic war well in Anil's Ghost, Selvadurai definitely captures the fear and shocking emotions that follow it. And so abruptly, cruelly, Arjie is stripped off his childhood and homeland, by a society that could not practice tolerance and humanity. Shyam taught my Prose Workshop class this year in university, which is what led me to read this book.
I found it to be quite entertaining and a good read overall. The political angle, while it does not leave any room for debate based on the POV chosen, is gripping. However, Arjie's voice does not seem as sharp by the end of the novel as I would've expected it to be. At the age of 14, he still seems to speak with the same naivite as when he first started speaking in the novel at the age of 7. I assume that this was the effect Shyam was striving for to further illustrate the social situation, but I found it to be a distraction in the novel overall. but is disappointing. I feel like this book might have been rushed to the publisher before it was really reviewed. There is not much character development and thus it is difficult to feel for the main character and then be invested in the book. I did not even bother finishing the last fifteen pages I had left b/c I did not care for Arjie very much. Being as the book presents itself to be about a homosexual boy growing up in a society that sees him as bringing shame to his family name the book hardly deals with this issue. I feel that the majority of the book was dedicated to the political situation in Sri Lanka at the time and less focused on Arjie's conflict of sexuality. This was the author's first novel and unfortunately that comes across.
“A marvelous first novel, about growing up gay in Sri Lanka...from a brilliant new writer whose next book cannot arrive here quickly enough” (Kirkus Reviews).
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