< Iron John: A Book About Men >
< Fire in the Belly: On Being a Man >
< King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine >
< A Little Book on the Human Shadow >
< The Way of the Superior Man >
< The Rag and Bone Shop of the Heart: A Poetry Anthology >
Robert Bly
price:$3.30
Da Capo Press(2004-07-27)
Usually ships in 24 hours customer 's review (Iron John by Robert Bly)    
(Filled With Metaphor and Meaning)   
(How Can We Resurrect the Power of the Masculine in us?)    
(Classic in the making)    
(Huh?) This is an excellent book on becoming a man. Robert Bly is one of the founders of the Modern Mens Movement. In this book, he explains step by step how to become the man we were meant to be. He explains why men are not living up to their potential, why they're not, and what to do about it. All men and women should read this book. It's That Important. This book came out when men's groups were everywhere. The myths and metaphors in this book are very powerful but you don't have to be a seasoned member of a men's group to understand it. You do, however, need to possess a working knowledge of psychology in order to grasp the meaning. If you are a man who comes from a seriously dysfunctional family, you will benefit greatly from this book. It explores the emotional geography of being a man and dealing with the complex feelings that come from even the slightest abuses. It is a bit heavy on myth, though. I had Louise Hay to guide me...I wish there were a male equivalent of her for men. Iron John is about taking men back, through myth and legend, to the source of their masculinity, and finding a middle path between the greater awareness of the "sensitive new age guy" and the power and vitality of the warrior. According to Bly, the wild man has been prepared to examine where it is he hurts; because of this, he is more like a Zen priest or a shaman than a savage. The wild man is masculinity's highest expression, the savage man its lowest. Mythology beckons us to enter fully into life, with all its blood and tears; the way we achieve full realisation of ourselves is to focus on "one precious thing" (an idea, a person, a quest, a question) and the decision to follow it at any cost is the sign of maturity. When we make a clear choice, the king in us awakens and our power are finally released. If used rightly, the wild energy can become a source of delight to everyone in its refinement. How else can we explain the unconscious admiration for a glorious knight or a man in a starch white uniform and medals? This image represents the civilisation of warrior energy. Appreciation of pain and sorrow, Bly says is as vital to a man's potentiality as is having the ability to soar in the air. Bly is sly. He talks about men without isolating women, without excluding the Divine Feminine from the male experience. In a day and age where the alpha male has been replaced by the only rational option, the beta male, Bly offers a third way, the nurturing Father. I really like the way Bly brings in fairy tale, mysticism, some gnosticism, and paganism, and um, even mythicism and also um the kitchen sink to describe the male ego in all of it's complexity. The most telling, for me, is the chapter on the lost King, concerning modern men's relationships to their workaholic distant Fathers, and embracing of their Mothers. The mothers encouraged men to eschew manual labor (vulgar!) for more 'spiritual' work involving intellectualism. And obviously, with the Enlightenment and the dispatch of Kings, the male ego has no really earthly Father to gaze upon as a Spiritual Guide. Bly rightly points out that in aboriginal tribes such as Indian and Australian, male initiation still takes place for boys where today in postmodern Western society, the lack of men intervening in boys' lives makes the process much more drawn out, much more protracted and even postponed. What happens in some aboriginal boys' lives at age thirteen only happens to young 'men' aged forty in Western society. Initiation, for me personally, occurred anonymously and in my late thirties, and lasted much too long. I only now am just coming to grips with the fact it happened and the resultant implications. It is uncanny the path and waypoints the initiation takes as described in Bly's book and how it was meted out in my own experience, pointing to what must be a universal phenomenon that encompasses many cultures. I recommend this book for any man who has ever failed miserably at being a 'man'. The rest already have this stuff down pat, I'm sure. I may be the elephant in the room here, but quite frankly I found this book to be a crashing bore. Out of the thousands of books that I have read in my lifetime I can count on one hand those that I have not finished and this is one of them. I get the point that the author is trying to make and heartily agree with the plight of men and what our society has done to the concept of "manhood" but trying to get through this piece of literature was like being stuck in cement and waiting to be rescued. In this deeply learned book, poet and translator Robert Bly offers nothing less than a new vision of what it is to be a man.Bly's vision is based on his ongoing work with men and reflections on his own life. He addresses the devastating effects of remote fathers and mourns the disappearance of male initiation rites in our culture. Finding rich meaning in ancient stories and legends, Bly uses the Grimm fairy tale "Iron John," in which the narrator, or "Wild Man," guides a young man through eight stages of male growth, to remind us of archetypes long forgotten-images of vigorous masculinity, both protective and emotionally centered. Simultaneously poetic and down-to-earth, combining the grandeur of myth with the practical and often painful lessons of our own histories, Iron John is a rare work that will continue to guide and inspire men-and women-for years to come. Rerations < Iron John: A Book About Men >
< Fire in the Belly: On Being a Man >
< King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine >
< A Little Book on the Human Shadow >
< The Way of the Superior Man >
freaks
< The Story of a Marriage: A Novel >
< The Story of Edgar Sawtelle: A Novel >
< The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society (Random House Reader's Circle) >
< Unaccustomed Earth: Stories (Vintage Contemporaries) >
< Olive Kitteridge: Fiction >
< The White Tiger: A Novel (Man Booker Prize) >
Andrew Sean Greer
price:$3.02
Picador(2009-03-31)
Usually ships in 24 hours customer 's review (Dazzling)    
(Sentimental payan to "love" and marriage) 
(The Plausible Impossible)   
(I enjoyed this book)    
(A MUST Read)     It is not often that a novel that is beautifully written, with great literary quality, also delivers surprises that make me gasp. But this one did exactly that. Surprising, insightful, evocative, delicate--a great story, set in a time and place not too far removed from the present and yet so different. If you have ever loved another person, I urge you to read this book! Greer's message in this well-written but ultimately unconvincing book is that human attraction and "love" are unpredictable, unknowable, ethereal things that link two unique people in ways that are marvelous even in the most difficult, or should I say, outlandish circumstances. "Passion and beauty", he pronounces, "explain nothing ... few of us are beautiful." Of course, it doesn't occur to him that unattractive people just don't have the rapturous love life he, a very attractive man as revealed in the bookcover photo, must have had. So it is no surprise he winds up celebrating romantic love and its corollary, middle-class marriage and family. If you buy this notion as the highest expression of adult human relationships, then by all means buy and read this book. You will find your values triumphantly reaffirmed. But if you sense that finding connection and intimacy in this dehumanized, superficial culture is a far more difficult and complex process for most people, give it a pass. Pearlie lives live much like any other housewife in Northern California in the early 1950s. She dutifully works to keep the house clean, keeps her polio striken son as healthy and vibrant as possible and her husband happy and calm (so as not to aggrevate his heart condition. All seems well, or at least liveable (like her husband's affair) until a knock at the door turns Pearlie's world upside down.
A white man's startling revelation about his relationship with Pearlie's husband during their wartime stay in the hospital should tear her world apart; instead the revelation opens doors she never knew existed.
Pearlie and the man strike up an unlikely friendship and, ultimately, he delivers stunning plans for her husband, plans that will have huge ramifications for Pearlie and her son. Now Pearlie must scramble to put a price on love, a figure high enough to secure a happy future for herself and her son.
Greer's language turns what might be an interesting story into a compelling, must-read book. Hailed by authors and critics alike, The Story of a Marriage, will stick with the reader for a long time. Overall, I found this to be a very thoughtful and beautifully written book. I enjoyed reading it and regretted reaching the end. For me, that's often the ultimate test of a book -- whether or not I'm sorry to say goodbye to the characters.
I agree with others who have commented that the "gotcha" twists were a bit strained. There were a few passages where I found my mind wandering, or found myself growing a bit impatient for the action to pick up. Nevertheless, it is an interesting storyline and I found the characters to be well developed, despite the spare prose and the novel's relatively short length.
I highly recommend this book to anyone who wants to be drawn into an interesting and thought-provoking story. "Holland and I had talked about our friends and our childhoods and movies and books and politics--we had agreed and disagreed and had our fights and merry moments over a beer--but I think it's fair to say we had never spoken honestly in all ours lives." This quote from A Story of a Marriage by Andrew Sean Greer prettily sums up the story's central conflict. The narrator, Pearlie a young mother and wife to her high school sweetheart, Holland grapples with her marriage in 1950's San Francisco. She says, "I loved you like a field on fire," in reference to Holland, and yet her marriage and commitments are tested by the appearance of a dapper stranger.
It does the novel a disservice to reveal any more about the plot, as its secrets are revealed in well timed waves. In fact the book's only draw back is its brevity as its simple prose endears readers page by page. It's an unconventional love story written with graceful restraint and vibrant characters. The Story of a Marriage is as perfect a novel as any I've read.
AToday ShowSummer Reads Pick AWashington PostBook of the Year
"We think we know the ones we love." So Pearlie Cook begins her indirect, and devastating exploration of the mystery at the heart of every relationship--how we can ever truly know another person.
It is 1953 and Pearlie, a dutiful young housewife, finds herself living in the Sunset District in San Francisco, caring not only for her husband's fragile health, but also for her son, who is afflicted with polio. Then, one Saturday morning, a stranger appears on her doorstep, and everything changes. Lyrical, and surprising,The Story of a Marriageis, in the words of Khaled Housseini, "a book about love, and it is a marvel to watch Greer probe the mysteries of love to such devastating effect." Rerations < The Story of a Marriage: A Novel >
< The Story of Edgar Sawtelle: A Novel >
< The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society (Random House Reader's Circle) >
< Unaccustomed Earth: Stories (Vintage Contemporaries) >
< Olive Kitteridge: Fiction >
freaks
< Tipping the Velvet: A Novel >
< Affinity >
< Fingersmith >
< The Night Watch >
< The Little Stranger >
< Tipping the Velvet >
Sarah Waters
 price: $5.12
Riverhead Trade
Usually ships in 24 hours customer 's review(Great Book)      (Always a Delight to Reread)      (Gender Performoance)     (Awesome Book!)      (Turn of the Century, London, Lesbians...yes, that's what I said...)    I loved everything about this book except the cover art and the fact that it is not available in hardcover. I love the cover art in the limited edition but when I ordered that the seller balked and delivering it and although my money was returned I was not notified until it was too late to reorder it (I wanted it for a plane ride to Taiwan) so I had to settle for the normal edition and pay the exorbitant bookstore price because I needed it in 2 days. Now on to the actual book. This book is a masterpiece however someone like me ( a 22 year old straight male) would not be able to enjoy it with out being called a pervert. This book has amazing character development and for those who think this is a porno book, it is not. There is as much lesbian action as there should be but that is not the focus of the book. This is a great story about a girl growing up in Victorian England and I think anyone who is not repulsed by lesbians should read this book and then check out the movie which is inferior to the book like almost all movies made from books but it's still great, and to those who are repulsed by lesbians then this book is obviously not for you.I loved this book, a coming-of-age story, a love story, a historical which gave a glimpse to a world I never knew existed.
I actually read this book ages ago, but wanted to give the author a nod right now, today, this very moment.
Why?
Because Amazon's new rule on sales ranking is horrid, discriminatory, all but bans brilliant books like Ms. Waters' to the back of the bus.
I wonder what the author thinks about this new rule. It infuriates me beyond belief, Amazon's lame reasoning for cutting off authors like Ms. Waters, especially after all these years. C'mon, Amazon!
Amazon just lost my sales.
I read this book the other day in one sitting. I wasn't sure what to expect, since a colleague from work had not been too keen with this particular novel. Overall, I enjoyed it. The book offered an interesting story and array of characters.
Is this Victorian era erotica? I am not sure that I would define if as such. Instead, it felt more like lesbian historical fiction. The audience for this book is wide, since the lay reader will enjoy it, as well as niche market readers. It would also be useful in lower division courses in Creative Writing, Women's Studies, and Literature.I just finished reading this book and I can't begin to describe how much I enjoyed it. I literally had to force myself to put it down. Sometimes one has to travel through extremes, without really appreciating or understanding, what those extremes are until, when a certain point in life has arrived. I watched the dvd first, I bought it after watching the Fingersmith on dvd, and I just had to buy the book. Now, I have to watch the dvd AGAIN! Sarah Waters is awesome!Another moving and well written story by Sarah Waters. I don't want to say too much, the review from Publishers Weekly tells too much of the story, I think it's better to be surprised.
Nancy Astley narrates her life for the reader with candor and abandon. We can smell the oysters in Whitestable where she grew up an oyster-girl with her fishmonger family. We smell the grease-paint, hair oil and spilled beer of the music hall where she first sees the pretty Kitty Butler dressed as boy performing on stage. Nancy is so taken with Kitty that she returns to the Canterbury Palace night after night to see Kitty's act. It's there that Kitty finally notices her and they begin their friendship. Eventually Nancy leaves home to travel to London as Kitty's dresser. Nancy has a secret no one must know, she's in love with Kitty Butler.
The path that Nancy Astley takes is a hard and winding road peppered with many interesting people with a variety of sexual appetites. And if you hadn't read the various product reviews you would not know where Nancy ends up and from where she tells us her story. I didn't know and I constantly wondered; did she go back home to Whitestable or end up in gaol...? I had no idea, I only knew that she wasn't dead because she was telling me her story.
Nancy is in love with someone who feels shame and self-loathing for their orientation, she fears being discovered for who and what she is, she endures the pain of judgment from a family member who can't accept her sexual inclination and she suffers further discrimination from individuals within a group that is already ostracize by the greater society.
Sarah Waters' characters have a way of staying with you after you are done reading about them. She writes love, heartbreak and sorrow as few authors can and manages to weave in a variety of other issues a well, overall this story is a thoughtful commentary on society, Victorian or contemporary, the issues have hardly changed in a hundred or more years.
I found the subtle references amusing; 'Kitty', the oysters, the fish smell, the pussy willow tree... though there is much that is not subtle and if you are easily offended you may not appreciate this novel.This stunning and steamy debut chronicles the adventures of Nan King, a small-town girl at the turn of the century whose life takes a wild turn of its own when she follows a local music hall star to London...
"Glorious...a sexy, sinewy sojourn of a young woman in turn-of-the-century England."--The Boston Globe
"Erotic and absorbing...If lesbian fiction is to reach a wider readership, Waters is the person to carry the banner."--The New York Times Book Review
"Wonderful...a sensual experience that leaves the reader marveling at the author's craftsmanship, idiosyncrasy and sheer effort."--The San Francisco Chronicle
"Amazing....This is the lesbian novel we've all been waiting for."--Salon.com
"Compelling...Readers of all sexes and orientations should identify with this gutsy hero as she learns who she is and how to love."--Newsday
"Echoes ofTom Jones,Great Expectations...Waters's debut offers terrific entertainment: pulsating with highly charged (and explicitly presented) erotic heat."--Kirkus Reviews(starred review) The heroine of Sarah Waters's audacious first novel knows her destiny, and seems content with it. Her place is in her father's seaside restaurant, shucking shellfish and stirring soup, singing all the while. "Although I didn't long believe the story told to me by Mother--that they had found me as a baby in an oyster-shell, and a greedy customer had almost eaten me for lunch--for eighteen years I never doubted my own oysterish sympathies, never looked far beyond my father's kitchen for occupation, or for love." At night Nancy Astley often ventures to the nearby music hall, not that she has illusions of being more than an audience member. But the moment she spies a new male impersonator--still something of a curiosity in England circa 1888--her years of innocence come to an end and a life of transformations begins.Tipping the Velvet, all 472 pages of it, is as saucy, as tantalizing, and as touching as the narrator's first encounter with the seductive but shame-ridden Miss Kitty Butler. And at first even Nancy's family is thrilled with her gender-bending pal, all but her sister, best friend, and bedmate, Alice, "her eyes shining cold and dull, with starlight and suspicion." Not to worry. Soon Nancy and Kitty are off to London, their relationship close though (alas for our heroine) sisterly. We know that bliss will come, and it does, in an exceptionally charged moment. A lesser author would have been content to stop her story there, but Waters has much more in mind for her buttonholing heroine, and for us. In brief, her Everywoman with a sexual difference goes from success onstage to heartbreak to a stint as a male prostitute (necessity trulyisthe mother of invention) to keeping house for a brother and sister in the Labour movement. And did I mention her long stint as a plaything in the pleasure palace of a rich Sapphist extraordinaire? Diana Lethaby is as cruel as she is carnal, and even the well-concealed Cavendish Ladies' Club isn'toutréenough for her. Kitting Nancy out in full, elegant drag, she dares the front desk to turn them away. "We are here," she mocks, "for the sake of the irregular." Only after some seven years of hard twists and sensual turns does Nancy conclude that a life of sensation is not enough. Still,Tipping the Velvetis so entertaining that readers will wish her sentimental--and hedonistic--education had taken twice as long.--Kerry Fried
Rerations < Tipping the Velvet: A Novel >
< Affinity >
< Fingersmith >
< The Night Watch >
< The Little Stranger >
freaks
< Fingersmith >
< Tipping the Velvet: A Novel >
< Affinity >
< The Night Watch >
< Fingersmith >
< The Little Stranger >
Sarah Waters
 price: $5.12
Riverhead Trade
Usually ships in 24 hours customer 's review(Brilliantly complex exploration of the darker aspects of Victorian England)      (Fingersmith)      (fingersmith)     (thank you, sarah waters)      (Breath taking)     I love, love, love this book. I first read it soon after it came out, and revisited it recently. Waters has a gift for lyrical prose and constructing an intricate narrative of layers upon layers; each incident or character, no matter how minor at the time, assumes crucial significance later, hardly any word or phrase is superfluous, and what is not said is often more important than what is. A number of the darker aspects of the novel are merely hinted at, not spelt out. The language of the dialogue and narrative evokes the period beautifully.
I won't attempt to summarise the plot; a number of reviewers have already done so. Suffice it to say that anyone looking for a Victorian-era "romp" or "cozy" may find that this book is not for them. This is a much bleaker and more confusing world, where as soon as you think you've figured out what is going on, everything is turned on its head, and nothing - and no-one - is straightforward. The characters are well developed, distinct individuals, who at times are not particularly likeable or sympathetic, but are fundamentally human. Even Waters' most appalling characters have some redeeming qualities, and are capable of making you feel something for them; nothing is black and white. I thought the love story between Maud and Susan was really nicely done; the "romance" element is not the most important part of the story.
"Fingersmith" is a long and at times challenging read - sometimes it moves quite slowly, and it's not going to appeal to everyone - but very much a worthwhile one. Highly recommended.I loved this book! As well as the movie. Sarah Waters is an excellent writer. I would have preferred a little more detail on the sex and a little more of it but it was a great book.FingersmithI LOVE this book. I found it a very intense story, and could'nt put it down. I read alot, not many books hit me but this one did. Thank you Ms. Waters.So, I'm currently about a week away from taking the dreaded LSAT (law school admission test) in order to one day save the world with my environmental law degree (kind of an "i am the lorax, i speak for the trees" thing). that or study literature forever. At any rate, I bought this book assuming I would use it to take the occasional "study break" from my terribly tedious LSAT homework....yeah, that didn't happen. Instead I hardly slept for 2 days and raced through all 600ish pages, could NOT put it down, absolutely living in the book. When I finally finished it, I was literally out of breath.
Sue and Maud are amazing characters because they are both so perfectly human. So much lesbian fiction and TV drama tries to force lesbians into this bizarre dichotomy of either squeaky-clean good girls in order to prove that they are not "sinful people," or on the flip side, evil seductresses who are trying to "stick it to the man," (and usually turn out straight in the end) to prove the exact opposite of the first image and reinforce negative stereotypes.
I'm sorry, but that is just not real life. Fingersmith's depiction of powerful, beautiful female characters is so refreshing compared to the cookie cutter 2-D characters of The L Word or that awful movie Imagine Me and You where it was just too damn cutesy and too careful not to make anyone uncomfortable that it left an over-sugary account of lesbian life (not to mention they are only together in the last 30 seconds of the film). So why did i watch it? Well, simply because the world has such a small selection of lesbian themed ANYTHING that it doesn't leave much of a choice.
That being said, however, Sarah Waters is BY FAR the best bet we have for writing and/or film adaptations that show characters who are not just "lesbians," but women, who have real struggles, and real desires, and real problems. She seamlessly transcends an entire century and creates Victorian characters who resonate so strongly with 21st century women, not to mention the plot twists, deliciously evil characters, atmospheric nuances, sexy scenes, and overall victorian scandal that make Fingersmith even better.
I also really appreciate that her characters never fall decidedly into the butch/femme duality, SO sick of that! Maybe it's just because I've seen so many examples that don't conform to this and breaking conventions is always a good thing!
Thanks Sarah Waters, like the others have said, you are a goddess :)The beginning of this novel starts out dark, very dark when talking about Sue Trinders past. Sue lives with a bunch of thieves and witnesses illegal activity every day of her life. When presented with an opportunity to scam a woman with a lot of money, she doesn't give up on the idea but considers it completely before finally accepting.
When she arrives she's not sure what to make of the place and is not sure that her new mistress will be convinced that she really is a maid. Eventually she falls into step with her maid duties and really becomes comfortable in the role of helping her longtime male friend scam this woman to ultimately get her put away forever and to get her share of the fortune.
However, things do not go as planned. Both women decieve each other, and in the end, her mistress is scammed as well. Sue and Maud both discover they have very deep feelings for each other and when Sue can stand it no longer, she finds her way back to Sue.
All in all, I found this a wonderful read with many plot twists that will make it hard to put this book down. The only thing that upsets me about this book is that we don't get to really experience the depth of love that both women feel for each other. I wish we'd experiece it more instead of just in fleeting glances before the book ends.
If you're planning on buying this, make sure you start reading when you have nothing left to do because you will not get any work done!In Victorian England, an orphan girl is sent to a country estate to work for-and ultimately woo-its young heiress, on behalf of a mysterious benefactor known as Gentleman. Fingersmithis the third slice of engrossing lesbian Victoriana from Sarah Waters. Although lighter and more melodramatic in tone than its predecessor,Affinity, this hypnotic suspense novel is awash with all manner of gloomy Dickensian leitmotifs: pickpockets, orphans, grim prisons, lunatic asylums, "laughing villains," and, of course, "stolen fortunes and girls made out to be mad." Divided into three parts, the tale is narrated by two orphaned girls whose lives are inextricably linked. Waters's penchant for byzantine plotting can get a bit exhausting, but even at its densest moments--and remember, this is smoggy London circa 1862--it remains mesmerizing. A damning critique of Victorian moral and sexual hypocrisy, a gripping melodrama, and a love story to boot, this book ingeniously reworks some truly classic themes.--Travis Elborough, Amazon.co.uk
Rerations < Fingersmith >
< Tipping the Velvet: A Novel >
< Affinity >
< The Night Watch >
< Fingersmith >
freaks
< Assisted Loving >
< My Stroke of Insight >
Bob Morris
 price: $5.00
HarperCollins e-books(2008-05-27)
Usually ships in 24 hours customer 's review(Father Know Best?)      (Tears, Laughter and Love)      (Assisted Loving)      (Surprisingly powerful)      (funny and poignent)     This is a wonderfully funny and warm-hearted tale of a son's love for his father. The author paints a wonderful word picture of his life. The good thing is the development of the father-son relationship. I have truly enjoyed this book!I loved this book so much that I have given it as a gift to many friends. Everyone has a similar reaction....it's simply great! Once you start reading, it is impossible to put down. The premise is unusual; the words are lyrical. This book does not disappoint......it is warm and funny and poignant....and speaks to relationships that we can all understand.Loved it! Absolutely one of the funniest stories I have read. Thank you Bob Morris for sharing the trials of dating with your Dad.Bob Morris's father (not the guy on the book's cover!) is pushing eighty when Assisted Loving opens. He's a youthful eighty, though, and newly widowed, a retired traffic judge, so he's a hot commodity among senior singles. Not one to mourn over-much, he is ready only months after his wife of fifty-plus years died (in 2002) to start the search for a new mate. He enlists his son to help him, and the younger Morris chronicles his fathers re-emergence on the dating scenes of Palm Beach and New York. That's the plot of the book, but the dates merely serve as the framework onto which Morris packs a meatier story about his relationship with his father and about growing up. At book's end, Joe Morris remains the man he was at the beginning: happy-go-lucky, exasperating, utterly devoted to his son. It's Bob Morris who emerges from the experience a changed (to a degree) man.
It's difficult to like Bob Morris for the first third of his book. His father may be legitimately annoying--most parents are--but at forty-four the younger Morris still acts like a teenager around him: pouting and saying just the wrong thing and not having much patience for the eccentricities of an old man. Worse, Morris is a superficial, elitist jerk. He's embarrassed by his old neighborhood, turns up his nose at his father's kitsch. He's irritated that visits with his father take him away from his usual party-hopping. Morris's mother had been very ill for years before her death. Morris was disappointed during that period because she lost interest in her appearance. He was ashamed to be seen with a dying woman who wasn't fashionable: "It was hard, watching her in her hopelessness. It was even harder seeing her thin, bruised arms and neck because she dressed in the most unflattering T-shirts." He dragged her out to Macy's to buy her new clothes--blouses, and hats to cover her thinning hair. He claims it made her happy, but it sure sounds like the new wardrobe was for him more than her.
Morris may be a jerk, but he's also self-aware. He is, after all, drawing attention to his bad behavior and, largely, condemning it. In the course of hanging out with his father during the dating period, the younger Morris becomes a better man--still, it seems, someone whose instinct is to be impressed by the superficial, but a better man. It is impressive that Morris is able to alienate the reader at the beginning of his book yet still bring us around by the end so that he seems likable. Also impressive is the portrait Morris paints of his father. The initial image we get of Joe Morris is a negative one, a man as seen through the eyes of a son who has little sympathy for him and is still harboring adolescent resentments. But as the book progresses we are given more insight into the older Morris, who turns out to be more supportive than many parents are and wiser than we might at first have supposed. It's a powerful portrait. And Assisted Loving is a well-written, funny, and surprisingly affecting book.
-- Debra HamelWhen I purchased this book I thought it would be all comedy. I was pleasantly surprised that although it had its funny moments it was also filled with nostalga and caring. A loving story about a father and son and their mutual acceptance.What would you do if your eighty-year-old father dragged you into his hell-bent hunt for new love? Bob Morris, a seriously single son, tells you all about it in this warm, witty, and wacky chronicle of a year of dating dangerously. A few months after the death of his wife, Joe Morris, an affable, eccentric, bridge-obsessed octogenarian, starts flapping about for a replacement. If he can get a new hip, he figures, why not a new wife? At first, his son Bob is appalled, but suspicion quickly turns to enthusiasm as he finds himself trolling the personals, screening prospects, and offering etiquette tips, chaperoning services, and post-date assessments to his needy father.Bob hopes that Joe will find a well-heeled lady -- or at least one who is very patient -- to get him out of his hair. But soon they discover that finding a new mate will not be as easy as they think: one date is too morose, another too liberal; one's a three-timer, another just needs an escort until Mr. Right comes along. Dad persists and son assists.Am I pimping for my father?he begins to wonder. Meanwhile, Bob suffers similar frustrations; trying to find love isn't easy in a big-city market that has little use for a middle-aged gay man with an attitude and a paunch. But with the encouragement of his father (his biggest fan and the world's "most democratic Republican") he prevails. In the end, this memoir becomes a twin love story and a soulful lesson about giving and receiving affection with an open heart. With wicked humor and a dollop of compassion, Bob Morris gleefully explores the impact of senior parents on their boomer kids and the perils of dating at any age.
Rerations < Assisted Loving >
freaks
< Object of Desire >
< What We Remember >
< Straight Lies >
< Murder in the Garden District: A Chanse MacLeod Mystery >
< Aloha Candy Hearts: A Russell Quant Mystery >
< Death in Key West: A Bradford Fairfax Murder Mystery >
William Mann
 price: $7.68
Kensington(2009-06-30)
Usually ships in 24 hours customer 's review(Looking for the "spark" that makes life more enjoyable)     From his days as a 20 year old popular go-go boy in the bars of WeHo, to his adult career as a successful artist, living with his longtime partner in Palm Springs, Danny Fortunato has led a life that many other gay men would envy. What they don't see is the guilt and hurt he has carried around since his 14th birthday, the day that his sister Becky disappeared, and his young life abruptly changed forever. Since then, there has always been something lacking in Danny's life, perhaps his passion for life itself, resulting in his inability to be truly happy. His partner, Frank, fifteen years older than Danny, senses it and has made compromises in the relationship for his sake. But Danny never really knows what he wants, or what he is missing, until the day he first sets his eyes on Kelly, a hunky new bartender in town, whose very presence makes Danny almost speechless. It's not just a sexual attraction, but something much more, that makes Danny obsessed with the 20-something bartender, who comes with significant emotional "baggage" of his own, making it very unclear if any kind of relationship with him is possible.
Mann is known for his outstanding character-driven gay male novels, and this is no exception. Told mostly in flashbacks from three time frames ... Danny's parochial high school years in Connecticut, his early days as a stripper and aspiring actor in West Hollywood, and - twenty years later - his "adult" years in Palm Springs ... the book tells a riveting story about his short-circuited boyhood, dealing with highly dysfunctional parents, his unfulfilled career dreams, the money and drug temptations offered to an attractive young man in WeHo in the early 1980's, and his evolution into a grown man who has in ways never really grown past that disappointed fourteen year old. The most stable influence in his life is his best friend Randall, who first took him in when he arrived in West Hollywood, and remained his confidant ever since. The book would especially be of interest to those familiar with Palm Springs and its "generation gaps" in gay nightlife, as well as its multitude of "A-list" gays and Hollywood has-beens. A beautifully-crafted masterpiece of a story, one that clearly deserves its five desert-sun-kissed stars out of five!
- Bob Lind, Echo Magazine -It-s always been golden for you, Danny. You-ve always been the golden boy.-Danny Fortunato seemed to have it all. He was cute, funny, sexy, smart-the hottest go-go boy in West Hollywood. When he danced on stage, all eyes were upon him and all men desired him. But something always kept Danny from ever really believing he was the golden boy that others said he was...a secret that he'd carried with him ever since he was a teenager. Twenty years later, living in Palm Springs, Danny is celebrating his 41st birthday-although -celebrating- might not be the right word for how he feels about his life today. To the outside world, he's still golden: he still has his looks, and he still loves Frank, his boyfriend of nearly two decades. But something is missing in his life. Passion. Romance. Adventure. The same something that's been missing ever since that day when he turned fourteen, when his sister Becky disappeared and his whole world flipped upside-down. Now into Danny's life walks a gorgeous young bartender named Kelly, who becomes for Danny an obsession, an object of desire and fascination. But Kelly's indifference to this onetime golden boy only confirms what Danny secretly believes: that he-s -vanishing- into thin air-like his sister, so long ago. As he reflects on his angst-ridden childhood-the shattering of his family, the sex and drugs of his youth as one of L.A.-s most coveted boy toys-Danny begins to recognize certain patterns. Somewhere along the way, he gave up on his dreams-not only of becoming an actor, but his very lust for life. And yet-all that-s about to change, when a surprising, agonizing connection with Kelly sends Danny on a soul-searching quest to reclaim the things he has loved and lost. Filled with unforgettable warmth, incorrigible humor, and irresistible charm, Object of Desire takes readers through three milestone eras in one man-s life-his youth in the 1970s, his days of abandon in the 1980s, and his more sober, reflective existence today-and reaffirms William J. Mann-s reputation as one of gay fiction-s major narrative powers.
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< Founding Mothers: The Women Who Raised Our Nation >
< Ladies of Liberty: The Women Who Shaped Our Nation >
< The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society (Random House Reader's Circle) >
< We Are Our Mothers' Daughters: Revised and Expanded Edition >
< Founding Brothers: The Revolutionary Generation >
< Loving Frank: A Novel >
Cokie Roberts
 price: $5.99
William Morrow(2004-04-13)
Usually ships in 24 hours customer 's review(A slow read)   (Founding Mothers)      (Low Premium, Great Value)      (Book purchase)      (Nice props to deserving women)    I like history and I like the idea of learning more about the women who lived during the revolutionary period. It is a true deficit in history books where we hear so little about women. I appreciate the fact that the author took on the topic and researched archives for clues about the experiences of powerful and high society women of the time period. Some of the facts and observation were interesting and informative. The unfortunate part of the book for me was that the chapters lacked continuity and focus and made following it a little difficult. The chapters would jump around with references to different people and then talk about them again in latter chapters. It made the reading a little slow and difficult to follow. Sometimes I think I missed the point and it was a little disappointing to find a history book that was hard to keep my attention. I love the concept and the topic.The women were much more involved than I thought most of my life. It was so wonderful to read history from the women's point of view. So glad they wrote letters and kept them.~Regarding the Public and it's Opinions and Support: "One fourth may be said to always be on the side of Government; one fourth sunk in sensuous pleasure; one fourth immersed in business; and the remainder inattentive and indolent to all public matters provided a grievance does not actually happen to their own...." ~Dennis deBerdt - page 122~
Another excellent tribute by Cokie Roberts to the "women behind the men and the scenes" during the Revolution. Another book by Cokie, "Ladies of Liberty" belongs on every DAR (whether by lineage or by ideals) library shelf. Cokie pulls no punches when delivering the goods in either of these books - the oft repeated appeal of Abigail Adams to her John "Do not Forget The Ladies" is taken quite literally by Cokie Roberts and she eloquently brings their discounted intelligence, courage and sacrifices to the rightful place in history with the men by whom they stood; for whom they loved, feared for, farmed for, bore children for without the protection of sufficient medicine, as though nothing out of the ordinary was going on at the time; some even covertly donned the garb of men and charged into battle too. Add another paradigm of stress while keeping THAT a secret while being surrounded by armies of Friends and Foes.
Some of them, such as Eliza Pinckney, would have made any modern CEO look like the fools most of them are. At the tender age of 16, this girl, barely more than a child, was taking over not only the family acreage in the absence of parents, but was "thinking ahead" like any good chess player - making business decisions that were to bear the fruit of those decisions years down the road. I suspect nobody gave her a gargantuan bonus or "incentive options" in Unplanted Indigo for her hard work, but that's a more modern story.
I must admit, my huge admiration for Benjamin Franklin suffered another slight setback after reading Cokie's remarks regarding him; but they were points well taken, since I had secretly suspected most of it myself gathered from the histories regarding Ben prior to reading this literary autopsy of him; but every icon deserves a notch or two downward occasionally just to keep them within the confines of the human race. In a strange paradox, Ben Franklin promoted freedom of speech with his covert pen taking the heat for him as Silence DoGood; at the same time, the fact that he used a pen name at all supports the remarks that he "waited in abeyance to see which side of the fence was going to prevail" before making a commitment. ( In Old Ben's defense, however, one must remember that speaking your mind publicly was a more difficult matter then than it is now - if you could actually keep it a secret, a pen name was a great buffer zone whilst getting the job done). Clay on the feet detract but little from his measure, after all. But Cheers to Ms. Roberts for rising to the cause of the long-suffering Mrs. Franklin and making us laugh at the same time.
Mercy Otis was one of the few women of that time who were supported by their men and families more openly as a important voice in politics and writing. She was of particular interest to me, and it was one of the best accountings I have read concerning her contribution to the Revolutionary movement. Quite an accomplishment, maintaining appearances as a lady, while keeping a keen brain under control at the same time.
Nonetheless, it was clear that while they were given little public credit for their thoughts, nonetheless, they were listened to - if mostly behind closed doors. Not all of them were American Heroines, either. A couple of them, most notably the infamous Mrs. Loring, were spies for the British, applying their wiles while passing the secrets; a humiliating lesson that never seemed to be learned over time by the men among us, either. So much for 250 years making a difference......
I'm not a rabid feminist, because I don't have to be. My grandmother, whose ancestors number among those in this book, did it for me. The debt of gratitude will never be fully repaid.
Thanks, Cokie.product received was as advertised, and in great condition. Would buy from this vendor again.The familiar voice of Cokie Roberts does the reading in the unabridged audio material, and her admiration for these talented, accomplished and articulate women is obvious (and well-deserved). She brings some fresh insight to familiar names such as Abigail Adams and Martha Washington, who comes across much better than I imagined from traditional histories.
The CDs are good drive-time listening, as Ms. Roberts moves along mostly chronologically, with some slightly confusing hops in time. You may easily stop and pick up again, as often the sections are short-to-medium topics that stand partly alone.
She found a reasonable balance in the tricky question of how much to say about the men. Clearly Ben Franklin, Washington, John Adams, Hamilton and the others must appear in non-trivial amounts, either directly in their correspondence with the women, or as anchors for the actions of the women in support of the country. A common theme is the struggles of the women on the home front, handling family, business and everything else while the men were away. The author rightly reminds us how little women could do publicly that we take for granted today.
I appreciated especially several women who were unfamiliar to me or whose contributions were higher than I thought, besides Mrs. Washington. There were the highly talented Eliza Pinckney who opened the book, Caty (aka Kitty) Greene (who may have invented the cotton gin), Sally Jay, Mercy Otis Warren, and others. When the women of Pennsylvania and then other states raised significant money for the troops during the war, the whole story was wonderfully touching. Another brief highlight was mention of some women who actually served in battle.
The book had occasional wanderings off topic, mostly notably a thread on the Randolph family that seemed largely irrelevant other than its juiciness as a scandal.
The history concludes when John Adams wins the presidency and America starts its transition into the post-founding age.Cokie Roberts's number oneNew York Timesbestseller,We Are Our Mothers' Daughters, examined the nature of women's roles throughout history and ledUSA Todayto praise her as a "custodian of time-honored values." Her second bestseller,From This Day Forward, written with her husband, Steve Roberts, described American marriages throughout history, including the romance of John and Abigail Adams. Now Roberts returns withFounding Mothers, an intimate and illuminating look at the fervently patriotic and passionate women whose tireless pursuits on behalf of their families -- and their country -- proved just as crucial to the forging of a new nation as the rebellion that established it. While much has been written about the men who signed the Declaration of Independence, battled the British, and framed the Constitution, the wives, mothers, sisters, and daughters they left behind have been little noticed by history. Roberts brings us the women who fought the Revolution as valiantly as the men, often defending their very doorsteps. While the men went off to war or to Congress, the women managed their businesses, raised their children, provided them with political advice, and made it possible for the men to do what they did. The behind-the-scenes influence of these women -- and their sometimes very public activities -- was intelligent and pervasive. Drawing upon personal correspondence, private journals, and even favored recipes, Roberts reveals the often surprising stories of these fascinating women, bringing to life the everyday trials and extraordinary triumphs of individuals like Abigail Adams, Mercy Otis Warren, Deborah Read Franklin, Eliza Pinckney, Catherine Littlefield Green, Esther DeBerdt Reed, and Martha Washington -- proving that without our exemplary women, the new country might never have survived. Social history at its best,Founding Mothersunveils the drive, determination, creative insight, and passion of the other patriots, the women who raised our nation. Roberts proves beyond a doubt that like every generation of American women that has followed, the founding mothers used the unique gifts of their gender -- courage, pluck, sadness, joy, energy, grace, sensitivity, and humor -- to do what women do best, put one foot in front of the other in remarkable circumstances and carry on.
Rerations < Founding Mothers: The Women Who Raised Our Nation >
< Ladies of Liberty: The Women Who Shaped Our Nation >
< The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society (Random House Reader's Circle) >
< We Are Our Mothers' Daughters: Revised and Expanded Edition >
< Founding Brothers: The Revolutionary Generation >
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< Sexual Fluidity: Understanding Women's Love and Desire >
< When You Lie About Your Age, the Terrorists Win: Reflections on Looking in the Mirror >
< Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment >
< Who's Been Sleeping in Your Head: The Secret World of Sexual Fantasies >
< The Whole Lesbian Sex Book: A Passionate Guide for All of Us >
< The Other Side of Desire: Four Journeys into the Far Realms of Lust and Longing >
Lisa M. Diamond
 price: $27.95
Harvard University Press
Temporarily out of stock. Order now and we'll deliver when available. We'll e-mail you with an estimated delivery date as soon as we have more information. Your credit card will not be charged until we ship the item. customer 's review(Every woman should read this book)      (Bad written, boring)  (boring read)  (sexual fluidity)      (INTERESTING BOOK FROM MALE POINT OF VIEW)   This book was fascinating, informative and easy to read. Every woman I know over 40 feels that there is no need in thier life for a man. Men should read this book to understand why women get tired of them.It's too bad that such an interesting subject was ruined by the style of writing, it was also repetitive and trying too hard to be "politically correct" trying to use alternative language, instead of calling things by what they are.
When this book was promoted on Oprah it sounded better than what it is. I'm glad I checked it out from the library and didn't have to spend money in a book that I couldn't go past a few pages because of how boring it was.sexual fluidity is really boring! not as interesting as the author's visit on Oprah's show. Kinda reads like a college text book. a real yawner!excellent book. I learnt lots about the subject and would encourage anyone who wants to learn about sexual fluidity to read it.This is a fascinating book from a male perspective. Forget about men wanting to get into a threesome or loving to watch woman-on-woman action. This well-written and informative book explores female sexuality on a much deeper level. Few things in our society are black or white, and the women written about in this book prove that that is true of whom women love and whom they desire, and if it is, or is not, necessarily the same thing. If you want to get away from the psychology and get into the physicality, however, I would recommend The Sensuous Couple's (Flip Over) Guide to Seismic Oral Sex. If you are a couple of any persuasion, I would suggest buying both books so you will have all the bases covered.Is love "blind" when it comes to gender? For women, it just might be. This unsettling and original book offers a radical new understanding of the context-dependent nature of female sexuality. Lisa Diamond argues that for some women, love and desire are not rigidly heterosexual or homosexual but fluid, changing as women move through the stages of life, various social groups, and, most important, different love relationships. This perspective clashes with traditional views of sexual orientation as a stable and fixed trait. But that view is based on research conducted almost entirely on men. Diamond is the first to study a large group of women over time. She has tracked one-hundred women for more than ten years as they have emerged from adolescence into adulthood. She summarizes their experiences and reviews research ranging from the psychology of love to the biology of sex differences.Sexual Fluidityoffers moving first-person accounts of women falling in and out of love with men or women at different times in their lives. For some, gender becomes irrelevant: "I fall in love with the person, not the gender," say some respondents. Sexual Fluidityoffers a new understanding of women's sexuality--and of the central importance of love. (20071029)
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< When You Lie About Your Age, the Terrorists Win: Reflections on Looking in the Mirror >
< Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment >
< Who's Been Sleeping in Your Head: The Secret World of Sexual Fantasies >
< The Whole Lesbian Sex Book: A Passionate Guide for All of Us >
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< No Strings >
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Blayne Cooper
 price: $4.78
Spinsters Ink Books
Usually ships in 24 hours customer 's review(Stranded with some pleasure)     (A "FUN" and adventurous READ!!)      (An Entertaining Read)      (A Comedy of Errors)      (I loved this book!)     Good read, not erotic overload. Story is well written with some added humor which works for this tale. A growing soccer team has recruited a venezuelan younster and a broadcaster for a special series of interviews. The characters are laid out pretty well, though it is the typical, lesbian falls for straight woman, straight woman falls for lesbian scenario, which can get old. But it is enjoyable despite this. Cooper keeps it plausible and fun at times. If you like lesbian fiction, you will enjoy this.Fun, fast-paced, and well-developed characters. Truly a treat. 3-dimensional and richly described scenarios..and subtlely comedic, you'll find yourselves chuckling. Well worth the $ and time spent. I will have to purchase other Blayne Cooper books now!I found this book to be amusing, captivating, humorous, and downright fun. I'm a huge fan of this author's ability to inject humor in unexpected ways. I'd highly recommend this book if you're looking for something that sucks you in and makes you regret putting it down.I have always been a huge fan of Blayne Cooper. I even loved `The Road to Glory,' which my partner thought was ludicrous. Needless to say, I expected to like `Stranded' even before I read the book description or started on the first page - and I wasn't disappointed.
Here, the author brings us lovely, straight divorcee Rachel Michaels. Although her radio talk show is very popular, Rachel wants to try new things and takes a job with a women's professional soccer team. The team sends her to Venezuela to interview their newest star recruit, Miranda Gutierrez. At the airport and ready to embark on the journey, Rachel is told she will be going with the owner's assistant, Nora Butler. Rachel suspects Nora is an administrative assistant who is sleeping with her boss. At the airport, they are told they will also both accompany Miranda on a tour of the Venezuelan wilds. Neither woman is thrilled with that proposition.
It doesn't take long for Rachel to discover Nora is the assistant general manager of the team and not just a bed-warming secretary. She and Nora hit it off until Nora hits on her - and comes on very strong. Unexpectedly, Nora comes out with both guns blaring trying to get Rachel into her bed. Both are terribly embarrassed about the whole thing the next morning. Gee - what a way to start a new job!
Things only get worse when Rachel and Nora meet Miranda. Or, better said, find her having a roll in the hay (literally) in her father's barn with a sexy stud. They both panic because the girl is only 17 and they thought they were getting a clean-cut, innocent teen. They are even more distraught when they discover Miranda secretly married this guy so she wouldn't have to leave him behind. Even with all this, the adventure hasn't really started.
The three women set off on their wilderness adventure and almost immediately find themselves in trouble. Their jeep is washed off the road by a heavy rainstorm and the driver is killed. There is no cell service, no real roads, no way to get help. They learn to rely on each other to survive. In the meantime, the relationship between Rachel and Nora develops until neither can resist. The initially disgusted Miranda begins to call them Mama and Papa, and somehow they pull through. As much as I've said here, it's their survival journey that kept this reader engaged.
Bottom Line - There is so much substance to this book it is hard to say what I liked best. Regardless of your usual reading preference, this story has something for everyone to enjoy.
I've always been a huge fan of Blayne Cooper/Advocate since the 1990s and have read all of Blayne's work. However, I was kinda cool on Blayne's last novel (Hard Times, a women in prison story) which I found a bit too bleak. That's why I was so very pleased to discover that Blayne has gotten back to writing what she's so good at, namely incredibly funny, highly entertaining, and well-written stories, which what her new novel 'Stranded' is.
Like the title of this book says, the story revolves around a divorced middle aged radio personality who gets a contract to be the announcer of a new major league woman's soccer team. As part of the deal, she directed to fly down to Venezuela with the sexy female Vice President of the team (who kinda looks like Evangeline Lilly) and meet their new star soccer player. Once they get down there, mayhem abounds, and the three women end up a perilous/survivor situation in the jungles of Venezuela. The only thing I would have changed in this story was to extend the ending by about 10 pages, and give the reader more sweet love! This book is definitely a keeper!! Rachel Michaels is at the top of her profession, but she's grown tired of trading barbs with her co-host/ex-husband on their popular morning radio talk show. Eager to stretch her wings, she takes a second job as the color commentator for Denver's new professional women's soccer team.
Along with her new job comes an exciting assignment, travel to Venezuela to profile the team's sizzling star recruit, Miranda Gutierrez. But Rachel begins to long for a little of her old routine when her boss forces her to extend her stay to accompany team big-wig, Nora Butler, and the headstrong player on a "bonding" adventure.
Their journey gets off to a bad start, and things go downhill from there. All three women are tested mentally and physically as they fight for their lives. They must learn to depend on each other, shape their own destinies, and, ultimately, risk everything for what matters most.
What would you do to survive? How much would you risk for love?
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< Justice for All >
< Blue Skies >
< Warming Trend >
< No Strings >
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< Fun Home: A Family Tragicomic >
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< Understanding Comics: The Invisible Art >
< Persepolis: The Story of a Childhood >
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< American Born Chinese >
Alison Bechdel
 price: $6.38
Houghton Mifflin Harcourt
Usually ships in 24 hours customer 's review(special people are everywhere if you look for them and have an eye for them)      (What an unexpected treat)      (Dykes that reveal themselves)     (good memoir in the wrong format for this reader)    (Suprisingly good)     An elegantly ordered, deeply thought out memoir of a father by his daughter.
The author's father - a high school English teacher in a small town, a part time funeral home embalmer, a home body, a Do It Yourself home improver, outwardly so utterly ordinary - had a secret sexual life.
The author draws parallels between her journey and ultimate escape from the small town traditions and thinking, and her father's growing, somewhat voluntary entrapment and suffocation therein.
The father taught the author to be an independent thinker and love literature and history and gave her her intellectual and spiritual wings. Yet he also tried to impose his vision of femininity on her - e.g., forcing a barrette on the hair of his tomboyish resentful daughter.
The father had some ingrained notion of staying married to a woman, carrying on the family's small town funeral home business, living in his ancestral home town though he also loved visiting the gay neighborhoods of New York City on certain weekends. He was caught between half hearted adherence to social norms and his internal deep seated insuppresible yearnings.
This memoir is not so much about sexual orientation, but about peoples' true natures, and how only so much of it can be healthily moulded into normal forms, and much of it can be suppressed, but at high mental cost.
If you enjoyed this book, I recommend the author's Dykes to Watch Out For series, especially the later volumes - it's about more than lesbians, but about humanity and the importance of individuality and being true to ourselves.
I've never read a graphic novel before so wasn't sure what to expect. I was blown away and am telling all my friends, 'you must read/view this book!'I didn't expect much from this book, cartoons and all. But what I got was a pleasant surprise. It was entertaining, informative and fun. Our writer begins at a very early age in her life and takes us through a journey of her own sexual awakening and discovery, to the discovery that her father was gay and often with men, even while married to her mother. She gives her feelings and thoughts about being raised by a man who bordered obsessive and could not, or would not, control his predilection for young men. I loved how she put the story together. It is a short read but well worth the price. And the graphics are fun. If you enjoy "Dykes to watch out for"....you will love this.This is a good graphic memoir I probably would have loved if it were not in the graphic novel format. Alison Bechdel is a skilled storyteller and graphic artist. I don't know if she's a skilled writer because she relies on her drawings to evoke the Victorian monstrosity of her childhood home and the girly dresses she abhorred. The words she uses are effective in moving the story along emotionally and temporally but without the drawings, the story is half told. I almost feel as though this should be reviewed as a film instead of a book.
Bechdel does a good job depicting a family caught up in the social upheavals of the 60s and 70s. She is honest about herself and the conflicts between childhood memory and adult perspective and understanding. I like her honesty. The way literature and popular culture are woven into the story feels natural and essential.
One example of when I would have preferred a more traditional narrative was description of Greenwich Village at that point in history. I'm from New York and spent a lot of time in the Village during that period. I didn't need to know any more about the significance of Christopher Street or the post-Stonewall atmosphere of NYC. Maybe that is a weakness of the book: is the audience too narrow? I guess I'll know the answer to that question when my well-read but decidedly non-urban, mostly straight book group discusses this next week. (They like Persepolis, but I had the same misgivings with that book.) I suspect I am just the wrong audience for graphic novels. If I run across any essays or other writings by Alison Bechdel, I will be happy to read them. And when they make the movie, I'll buy a ticket.
Ultimately, this read was pleasant but frustrating. If any graphic novel could have satisfied me, Fun Home would have - and didn't. It isn't Bechdel's fault. She's written a good graphic memoir that is, for me, lacking the emotional depth of a good memoir Didn't think I would like the graphic novel genre, but I really did. Well written and well illustrated...plus, a quick read.A fresh and brilliantly told memoir from a cult favorite comic artist, marked by gothic twists, a family funeral home, sexual angst, and great books.
This breakout book by Alison Bechdel is a darkly funny family tale, pitch-perfectly illustrated with Bechdel's sweetly gothic drawings. Like Marjane Satrapi's Persepolis, it's a story exhilaratingly suited to graphic memoir form.
Meet Alison's father, a historic preservation expert and obsessive restorer of the family's Victorian home, a third-generation funeral home director, a high school English teacher, an icily distant parent, and a closeted homosexual who, as it turns out, is involved with his male students and a family babysitter. Through narrative that is alternately heartbreaking and fiercely funny, we are drawn into a daughter's complex yearning for her father. And yet, apart from assigned stints dusting caskets at the family-owned "fun home," as Alison and her brothers call it, the relationship achieves its most intimate expression through the shared code of books. When Alison comes out as homosexual herself in late adolescense, the denouement is swift, graphic -- and redemptive. Rerations < Fun Home: A Family Tragicomic >
< The Essential Dykes to Watch Out For >
< Understanding Comics: The Invisible Art >
< Persepolis: The Story of a Childhood >
< Blankets >
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