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< Straight Parents, Gay Children: Keeping Families Together > < Beyond Acceptance: Parents of Lesbians&Gays Talk About Their Experiences > < My Child Is Gay: How Parents React When They Hear the News > < Always My Child: A Parent's Guide to Understanding Your Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgendered or Questioning Son or Daughter > < Now That You Know: A Parents' Guide to Understanding Their Gay and Lesbian Children, Updated Edition > < Is It a Choice? - 2nd edition: Answers to 300 of the Most Frequently Asked Questions About Gays and Lesbian People > < Health o Meter HDC100-01 "Grow with Me" Teddy Bear Scale for Babies and Toddlers > < Braun IRT 4020 ThermoScan Ear Thermometer > Robert A. Bernstein

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Da Capo Press
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(Understanding and accepting your gay child)

(Great for parents who want enlightenment)

(Good for parents!)

(Many good stories)

(Important help for "new" parents)

The 30th anniversary of PFLAG is a fitting time for this updated edition. Former national vice president of PFLAG, Robert Bernstein has chronicled not only his own journey to acceptance and support of his lesbian daughter, but also the founding and continuing growth of PFLAG.
Moving stories of the founders and leaders of PFLAG blend with Bernstein's story. These tales underline the ability of loving parents to work together toward acceptance of their children's differences. Following their initial shock, guilt, and grief, all these parents have found their way to acceptance and respect for their special children. Their realization that this is still the child they love is the first great step. Most have gone on from this stage to help and support other parents through their early traumas and into the light and joy of truly sharing their children's lives. PFLAG plays a major role in all their lives. Many have become staunch advocates for equality and acceptance of their own and all other such children into the larger community.
Straight Parents, Gay Children includes stories of celebrities, politicians (even the Vice President of the US), and religious leaders of many faiths who have faced and accepted homosexuality for themselves or within their families. These highly visible community and national leaders stand in strong contrast to the homophobia and hatred so apparent in the public proclamations of other church and political leaders. A new chapter in this edition is devoted to these celebrities and other leaders.
Toward the end of the book is a "Survival Guide." It debunks the concept of guilt - that the parents "did something wrong" to make their child homosexual. This chapter presents arguments to overcome the shame and anger that usually erupt shortly after your child's announcement "Mom, Dad, I'm gay." You are led toward understanding and respect for your courageous child. And, if you are willing, you are led to publicly support not only your own child, but all who are subjected to marginalization due to their sexual or gender diversity.
Another new chapter in this edition, "Family Values," discusses gay and lesbian parenting. In "The Unreliability of Stereotypes," Bernstein discusses common stereotypes of policing, professional sports, and politics - where they are "...unmasked as, well, fairy tales."
As author Bernstein points out, "If you have a gay child, you are in the very best of company."

And that's the problem with this book, if it's not read within its parameters. Robert A. Bernstein, inspired to write his book after his teenage daughter came out as a lesbian, has some wonderful examples of parental support of gay, lesbian, bi and transgendered children, and support for parents is the reason for the book. And the history of the parental group (P-FLAG) of such children is intriguing and informative. Certainly, just as gay and lesbian children need the support of their families, so their parents need their unique support systems. Unfortunately, parents who reject not only their childrens' "alternate" lifestyles but their children in whole, aren't likely to read Bernstein's book simply because they probably don't want to understand what they disdain for whatever reason. The real-life parent-child relationships posited here are wonderful, and it would be truly magnificent if all parent-child relationships could be as they are here. Additionally, the children in this book are older, not necessarily pre- and teenagers, thus exluding the parents of these age-specific issues. Further, many of the children cited here are usually on track toward personal and professional fulfillment, quite likely partly because of their parents' support. Unfortunately, a great many others, if not more, have either been fully abandoned by their parents and family or, if they haven't, don't have what could qualify as anything nearing a healthy relationship with their parents. By its title, Bernstein's novel is directed toward parents, and certainly they need support just as much as their children. But to conclude that all gay and lesbian children have their families' unconditional love and support would be a tragic mistake. Unfortunately, all too many parents, presumably affected by the fears and prejudices of homophobia, will likely never accept their childrens' alternative choices and will never have a need for a book like this. But for those parents who do, Bernstein's work is a wonderful beginning toward understanding.
I just finishing reading this book. It was a good read but it is more or less for parents to read. Don't get me wrong, I learned some things: what parents go through, some things on society, history of p-flag, and such but it was not all that I hoped this book would be.
The author uses lots of high profile people as examples in this book so it was hard for someone like me to figure out just where I stand in life. As it will probably be for parents to place their child among these people who are exampled.

Most of the themes in this book are more adult rather than young teens to young adult.
It is a good attempt to give an overview of the "gay" world but it was not what I expected.

I would recomend this book for parents of gay children who want to learn more about the life style, history, p-flag, ect.
But not to learn about their children. The only way to do that is to ask them yourself.
Robert Bernstein's account of the development of P-Flag is emtional and inspiring. His book helps parents of gay children to learn about what gay means and how to accept their children. One flaw in this book is that all the examples he uses are men and women who have achieved high status as pretty much defined by society. Most of them are in "marriages", long-term relationships. All of this makes them look "just like" straight people. This position is only one of many taken by gay people and gay organizations. I wondered as I read this book where I fit in. None of those gay people were like me and I did not share many of their views. So where does that put gay people like myself in Bernstein's perspective? The book seems to whitewash much of the gay world. Bernstein does not seem to be in touch with the youth programs. As a volunteer in one of those programs, I can tesitfy that none of the teens in our project reflect the kind of gay people he described. That criticism aside, Bernstein's book attempts to fight bigotry and help straight parents climb the mountain, as one parent put it to dealing with their own issues and reaching out to their children in love.
Our son came out at age 18. When I worked up the courage, 4 months later, to attend my first PFLAG meeting (Parents, Family and Friends of Lesbians and Gays), the support of people who have already been there was wonderful. This was the first book they recommended, and it made a huge difference in my ability to bring order to my thoughts (and my conflicted heart), and not just to accept but to embrace my son's courage and honesty. The book deals compassionately with parents' fears regarding potential violence to our children and the tragedy of AIDS and social prejudice. More importantly, it inspires and en-courages parents not just to continue loving our children, which is the easy part, but to become comfortable as advocates for our fine children (who happen to be GLBT) to whatever degree makes sense in our lives. I highly recommend this book.

Straight Parents, Gay Children is Robert Bernstein's moving account of how he came to terms with his daughter's homosexuality and how the experience has enriched his life. Bernstein -- winner of the 1996 Award for Best Scholarship on the Subject of Intolerance, awarded by the Gustaves Myers Center for the Study of Human Rights in North America -- discusses the myths surrounding homosexuality, accepting the news, parents who speak out, public figures who have gay children, and more. Straight Parents, Gay Children is a survival guide for all parents who wish to help their gay children cope with the inevitable cruelty from which they cannot hide. This revised and updated edition includes an introduction by Robert MacNeil of MacNeil/Lehrer Productions and a foreword by Candace Gingrich, author of The Accidental Activist "Bob Bernstein has done a wonderful job. I wish his book could be required reading for the world."—Betty DeGeneres, spokesperson, Human Rights Campaign, National Coming Out Project "Bernstein's tone is personal, his advice is sound ... a valuable addition to the psychological self-help collections."—Charles Harmon, Booklist "A succinct, moving book about parents who have defied the social stigma of homosexuality to publicly support their gay children."—Washington Blade

The courageous and levelheadedStraight Parents, Gay Children, Armistead Maupin comments, "shows the parents of gay children how to stop merely tolerating their kids and start being their heroes." Robert A. Bernstein made this essential move to "heroism" himself after his daughter Bobbi came out to him and her stepmother in the mid-1980s, when she was 19. Soon after, they attended a meeting of P-FLAG (Parents, Friends and Family of Lesbians and Gays) at a nearby church, and Bernstein realized that he had joined a small but powerful group of people unable to support the continued oppression of their gay loved ones. Bernstein brings together stirring quotes (even from such unlikely sources as the late Senator Barry Goldwater) and inspiring stories, like those of Jane Spahr, the first openly gay minister to be called as a pastor of the Presbyterian church (and later denied the post) and of Dr. Roscoe Thorne, a former lumberjack and weightlifter who spoke to a packed room at a military hearing set up to discharge his son from the navy despite his brilliant career as a "Top Gun" pilot. A useful book for therapists, clergy, and educators, and an essential resource for parents of gay and bisexual children.--Regina Marler
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< Straight Parents, Gay Children: Keeping Families Together > < Beyond Acceptance: Parents of Lesbians&Gays Talk About Their Experiences > < My Child Is Gay: How Parents React When They Hear the News > < Always My Child: A Parent's Guide to Understanding Your Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgendered or Questioning Son or Daughter > < Now That You Know: A Parents' Guide to Understanding Their Gay and Lesbian Children, Updated Edition > freaks

< Tomorrow's Promise > < Passion's Bright Fury > < Winds of Fortune > < Love's Masquerade > < Fated Love > < Beyond the Breakwater > Radclyffe

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Bold Strokes Books
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(Tomorrow's promise)

(Healing Passion!)

(Not Up to Rad's Usual Standard...)

(Can't go wrong with a Radclyffe novel!)

(Tomorrow's Promise)

This is a beautiful story by Radclyff. The characters are believable and she touches on a subject that many people would not know how to write about. I'd suggest reading it before the Honor series.
Tomorrow's Promise is a classic love story. This book is the journey of two different women from totally different worlds that share one thing in common...they are broken! They find their souls and bodies healing from their growing passion for eachother but, will it be enough? Time will heal old wounds but, how much time do they have together? This book was romantic from start to finish and I couldn't be happier! It was an easy read and a complete pleasure as always a Rad book is! I will definitely keep this classic in my collection! You will not be disappointed...
For only the second time, this reader is giving a 4-star rating to a Radclyffe book. In `Tomorrow's Promise,' Rad introduces Adrienne Pierce. Adrienne is a recent survivor of a breast cancer scare during which she had a single mastectomy. Her lover of several years became distant and her career was put on the back burner. Adrienne decides to spend the summer alone on Whitley Point, a secluded semi-private island off the coast of Maine. There, she meets the enigmatic Tanner Whitley - wild child and heir to the Whitley fortune.

Tanner is soon enamored by older Adrienne and the women find themselves falling into a tentative love relationship. Tanner is convinced Adrienne is there to stay and is devastated when Adrienne decides to return to her regularly-scheduled life.

The book seems to end abruptly without closure to many of the issues introduced by the author. There is not enough time allowed (i.e., only a page or two) for the characters to embrace their future. Neither the characters of Adrienne nor Tanner seem fully developed. Only Tanner's past seems to have any dimensionality. Adrienne's only includes her career in the military and her estranged former lover/wife.

As with any Radclyffe book, no collection of lesbian fiction is complete without including this one. However, it just doesn't seem to rise to her standard level of excellence.

Since Tanner's father died on the open sea, she's been a rebellious, party animal. Not caring how much she drinks, how fast she drives or who she sleeps with.

Until one morning lying on the beach where she slept the night away, the beautiful Adrienne stumbles onto her thinking she's dead.

The two have a roller coaster relationship with an interesting ending.
Excellent read. The characters are well developed, with an enjoyable plot that makes it impossible to put this one down. As uisual the romance is hot and passionate.
Adrienne Pierce, buffeted by fate and abandoned by love, seeks refuge from her past as well as her uncertain future on Whitley Point, a secluded island off the coast of Maine. Tanner Whitley—young, wild, restless—and heir to a dynasty, desperately tries to escape both her destiny and the memories of a tragic loss with casual sex and wild nights, a dangerous course that may ultimately destroy her. One timeless summer, these two very different women discover the power of passion to heal--and the promise of hope that only love can bestow.
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< Tomorrow's Promise > < Passion's Bright Fury > < Winds of Fortune > < Love's Masquerade > < Fated Love > freaks

< The Devil Unleashed > < The Devil Inside > < Deal with the Devil > < When Dreams Tremble > < Second Season > < First Instinct > Ali Vali

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Bold Strokes Books
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(The Devil Unleashed)

(Ali Vali's 'Devil' series)

(GOOD READING)

(Outrageous!)

(An Excellent Romantic Thriller!)

Miss Vali, I take my hat off to you. I have so enjoyed reading this book, I have read it at least six times. The character of Derby CAIN Casey is captivating, witty and downright devilish. The storyline and other characters are equally enthralling. I would recommend this book to anyone who enjoys the pleasure of reading. Encore, encore.
I am new to Ms. Vali's books, but the series featuring Cain are truly HOT!!! After finishing the last book, I await more about Cain and Emma along with Remi and Dallas. This storyline was the greatest. Kudo's to you Ms. Vali and please bring us the next book in this series soon! Thanks again for the story, P. Addison-Pires.
I enjoyed this book alot, the story line was incredible and it kept my interest. I could not put the bbok down!!
I would have given this more stars if I could!
I patiently awaited the sequel to "The Devil Inside" and I was not disappointed. This is by far one of the best novels I've ever read. "The Devil Unleashed" picks up where "The Devil Inside" left off and boy oh boy what a ride. I did not want this book to end - It's a must read!

Ms. Vali has done it again. She continues to prove herself as an author to be reckoned with.

All in all Ms. Vali has done a fine job of providing the reader with an enjoyable read and has demonstrated she is a true storyteller.
This story delivers 110%. I can't wait for the sequel!

I can't say enough good things about Ali Vali's writing talents! She is an amazing storyteller and gives each character very real and dynamic personalities. Vali's second book in the Devil series can stand on it's own but, reading both just adds to the Devil Unleashed enjoyment. You will not be disappointed in this book! It was an easy and very enjoyable read. I was really looking forward to it's release and read it in one afternoon. The book flows and the characters reel you in and keep you captive until the end. This book takes a big, bad crime boss and makes her a character you are rooting for to win the fight of her life and her family's safety/future is on the line. This book has everything: humor, love, lust, loyalty, revenge, passion, and great sex. The bad guys get what they deserve at the hand of the devil! I hope that Vali keeps the Casey clan going but if not, this book ties up loose ends nicely. I loved this book and I will keep it in my collection to read again! Vali rocks!
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< The Devil Unleashed > < The Devil Inside > < Deal with the Devil > < When Dreams Tremble > < Second Season > freaks

< Wild Raspberries > < When Adam Met Jack > < Sleeping With the Past > < Warm Rush, Book I: Ch Winter > < The Boy Next Door > < Condor One > Jane Davitt

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Torquere Press(2008-08-05)
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(Wild Raspberries by Jane Davitt)

When I read a story like this, I always wonder if really in the world there are still places where a wandering boy can find shelter in an isolated cabin inhabited by a grumpy but gentle man, and be happy. Places where nature is still the Lady of all, and the nearer town is miles away, and so a mourning soul can find peace. Places where, if you want, you can live of little, harvesting almost all you need. This is the place told in Wild Raspberries, and it's a nice place.

Dan is a runaway boy. Small town raised and too soon without the gentle touch of a mom, when his father found about him being gay, Dan runs away, not bearing the hard words of the man. This is a thing that Dan does a little too often, running away when there is an argument, instead of having the courage to stand his position. But Dan is young, barely twenty, and maybe he needs to grew a bit more. Avoiding greater trouble, but still not going out without scratches, Dan arrives near Tyler's cabin.

Tyler is a scarred man, if not in body, in soul, and he searches solace in the loneliness of the nature. But even if as a former soldier, he has done things that still haunt him, he is not a bad man, and seeing a boy in need and not helping him is impossible. But at 34 years old, Tyler is convincedthat he can avoid to become involved with a too young man,

For the first time Dan is around a man, a real man, who makes him feel good. There is not shame around Tyler, Dan can be bratty and free, he can flirt and play, and receive strokes and not slaps. Oh yes, Dan is a teaser, and with his teasing he forces Tyler to going out from his isolation. Even if both realize that, in normal circumstances, probably they are not made for each other, there in the isolated cabin, they are very good together. Tyler instills a bit of trust in Dan, drop by drop, and Dan gives back a bit of joy to Tyler. If only the outside world would not interfere.

The story is sweet and romantic, and also in some points, funny. And then I have always had an inclination for the May / December relationship: there is something refreshing in a young man who can have a skilled hand to accompanying him step by step into the adulthood. And even if Tyler growls and snarls, he never bites (if not as foreplay...).

When Daniel Seaton inadvertently trespasses on Tyler Edward's land, things almost go very, very wrong. It's bad enough that Dan's a runaway, but when Tyler nearly shoots him on sight, Dan knows he's in trouble. Tyler's got a lot of years under his belt, and his past doesn't let him accept strangers easily. Dan's situation is dire enough that Tyler takes him home, at least for a little while, and that turns out to be a good decision when Dan decides to stay on and help out with the chores. Tyler might be learning to trust, and Dan might be settling in to a new life, but things are not always what they seem. Between interfering friends, injuries, and their attraction to each other, Tyler and Dan have plenty of troubles. More trouble turns up in the form of Tyler's past, which catches up to them with a vengeance, and they decide to start a new life together, one that requires them to leave everything behind. Can they overcome what lies in the past to have a future with each other?
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< Wild Raspberries > < When Adam Met Jack > < Sleeping With the Past > < Warm Rush, Book I: Ch Winter > < The Boy Next Door > freaks

< Everyone Dies (Center Point Platinum Romance (Large Print)) > < Slow Kill > < The Big Gamble: A Kevin Kerney Novel > < Nothing But Trouble : A Kevin Kerney Novel (Kevin Kerney Novels) > < Under the Color of Law: A Kevin Kearney Novel (Kevin Kerney Novels (Hardcover)) > < The Judas Judge (Kevin Kerney Novels) > Michael McGarrity

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Center Point Large Print
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(Formula Writing)

(So-so McGarrity, But Always a Superior Mystery)

(Best 'who-done-it' in the series)

(Delightfully surprised!)

(Another book worth reading from a great series)

After about one fourth of the way into this book I began skimming pages and still easily followed the plot. The author has written some fairly decent books but this is not one of them. This book is evidence of formula writing at its worst. The plot is too ambitious with gratitious carnage - cumbersome transition - characters not well developed.
I've been an avid reader of McGarrity's Kevin Kerney police novels since the first, because he is a highly skilled writer, the plots move quickly and smoothly, the characters are quirky and intuitive, Chief Kerney is very empathetic, and the scenic descriptions take me right back to New Mexico state. Despite the provocations of sociopathic killers, Kerney always remains laconic and cool, in control of his emotions and, seemingly, the events. For good or ill in its attractiveness to the reader, the author never ratchets terror high, even when a killer stewed in revenge, as here, intends it.

My total enjoyment of this story had only two blemishes. Midway through, the author mistakenly let us see how the murderer is planting a false trail (rather than let us make that chilling conclusion). Rather than a clever twist in the plot, this view quite took the rising suspense out of the next 50 pages for me. (Perhaps McGarrity should be excused, in view of the subsequent shocking twist he gives to the "false" suspect.) Second, the ending was too rushed, both as a scene and relative to the intricate build up to it. The climax was too vaguely described, leaving me in doubt as to who had their finger on the final trigger. Minor disappointments are that we never do find out all the ways in which the killer got his incredibly detailed info on his targets; and Kerney allows his wife, Sara Brannon, a military policewoman, to insist on committing a great breakdown in discipline, leading to a more dangerous final confrontation.

Thankfully, this is the first time McGarrity has used the plot device--targeting and terrorizing the hero's family--that, repeated, turned me right off of later Cornwall and Patterson mystery series. I'd not like to lose McGarrity, too. The art on recent covers is too generic, urban even, which the horse-loving rancher/policeman Kerney is not at all about; the art should return to New Mexican scenes of the earlier and strongly atmospheric books, please.
Even though this novel is a stand alone book within the Kevin Kerney series of novels, it would probably help to read a few of the others first, only to flesh out some background history on some of the characters.

I think that's beneficial only because the murders that plague Santa Fe, NM and Kevin Kerney's department hits close to home. First a seemingly random, yet planned murder of a gay attorney in town has the community and the police baffled. As the story progresses and the body count increases, it soon becomes evident that the murderer is singling out and sending a very private yet cryptic message to Kerney.

Kerney then realizes that his pregnant wife, and his estranged son may also be targets, and the clues are vague at best. This is no ordinary killer, this one has spent a lot of time crafting his trade and will have the reader guessing for quite sometime on who's next and where we are going.

That's the testament to this novel. You can really empathize with Kerney as he begins to feel helpless for not only himself but those few remaining close to him. The novel does a great job in pacing the action and guesswork, and you'd be surprised how fluid it moves along, all the while the bodies start stacking up.

The only issue I had that prevented me from assigning 5 stars was the very last chapter. After the climax, which was a little short after such a wonderful buildup, the last chapter jumped the reader a few weeks forward and everything was back to normal...too quickly and done within only a few brief pages.
I had never heard of Michael McGarrity, and found the cover and the plot summary both a bit off-putting, and wasn't expecting to like this book. I was delightfully surprised to discover that unlike many writers in the murder, mayhem and mystery genre, McGarrity didn't slipslide at all into the murky depths of horrifying psychotic evil, gratuitous garbage-language,-sex,-blood,-gore and cruelty, and wallow there for several hundred pages.

He wrote a book about a psychotic killer, yes, but he didn't allow his writing to sink to the level of the killer. It's a very good book with breadth and depth even with a "less-is-more" control over the verbiage, which I like and respect. His story line and characters are engaging. The mystery is compellingly presented. I finished it and rushed to my nearest bookstore to buy all the other Mike McGarrity murder, mayhem and mystery books and have since read them and found them as engaging as Everybody Dies! Keep on writing, Mr. McGarrity!
Everyone Dies is the newest in a great series, but not the best of the series. We get the continuation of Chief Kerney's relationship with his often absent wife, his recently discovered son and other characters who have grown familiar as the series has developed. There are a lot of violent murders and the gradual introduction to the murderer as he pursues his agenda. It is the good police work and quick analysis of the evidence as the case takes unexpected twists and turns that keeps the reader's attention. It is a exciting, quick read that I would recommend to anyone who likes a good mystery. Skip some of the poorly written "best sellers" that everyone is reading and dig into one of the better written mystery series and you will be rewarded.

I would recommend reading the earlier books in the series first to get the background on these characters. I have been a fan of the series since Tularosa and will continue to read any books by Michael McGarrity since they are well written and take place in areas of the Southwest with which I am very familiar.
With "a cunning mind for crime fiction" (New York Times Book Review), Anthony Award-nominated Michael McGarrity ratchets up the stakes in his novel of a vengeful killer with an unspeakable agenda: offing people with ties to the criminal justice system. Next on the list: Santa Fe Police Chief Kevin Kerney, his wife, Lieutenant Colonel Sara Brannon, and their unborn son.
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< Everyone Dies (Center Point Platinum Romance (Large Print)) > < Slow Kill > < The Big Gamble: A Kevin Kerney Novel > < Nothing But Trouble : A Kevin Kerney Novel (Kevin Kerney Novels) > < Under the Color of Law: A Kevin Kearney Novel (Kevin Kerney Novels (Hardcover)) > freaks

< NYC Go-Go > < Backstage Pass: Broadway Bares > < Night Visions: Contemporary Male Photography (Photo Anthology) > < Gods of Sport > < Chulo > < So Sexy It Hurts >

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powerHouse Books
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(Dancing Boys)

Mogutin, Slava (photographer) and Benderson, Bruce (introduction). "NYC Go-Go", Powerhouse Books, 2008.

Dancing Boys

Amos Lassen

Slava Mogutin was born in Siberia and exiled from Russia when he was 21 because of his queer activism and writings. Russia's loss was our gain. His beautiful photography of the New York City club world of the mid-1990's is what "NYC Go-Go" is about. This is a tribute to a period that was and Mogutin shows us the shrinking downtown gay club scene by taking us, through his photographs to the few remaining spots--Cock, Boysroom and Mr. Black. It is a world of decadence, populated by hustlers and go-go boys, "rough trade' with criminal pasts and guys that are gay for pay. Many of them are friends of the man with the camera. He gives us a raw style that is most definitely in your face. Downtown New York was like this before then mayor, Rudy Giuliani began his "Quality of Life" campaign and cleaned up the area. The photos are incredible.
The shots are not posed and we see pictures that are lewd and very erotic and that tease the viewer. The early photos lead to the full frontal nude photos in the nook.
Bruce Benderson, noted gay author contributes the introduction which is enlightening and clearly written. It and the photos give us a look at a world that many of us will never have the chance to know.

Slava Mogutin, the notorious Russian dissident-turned-art-star and creator of the critically acclaimed Lost Boys (powerHouse Books, 2006), returns with his second monograph, NYC Go-Go, a tribute to the golden age of New York City nightlife.
The once-glittering club world had all but disappeared by the time Mogutin arrived in America in the mid-1990s. Under Mayor Rudy Giuliani’s controversial "Quality of Life" campaign, downtown clubs paid the ultimate price: owners were branded community pariahs and paid crippling fines for alleged disruptiveness, while others were prosecuted for criminal acts; many legendary night spots were wiped off the map altogether.
In his new book, Mogutin documents the ever-shrinking downtown gay scene, taking us inside remaining joints like the Cock, Boysroom, and Mr. Black. NYC Go-Go is a wild and raunchy journey into the decaying but utterly decadent underworld of hustlers and go-go boys. Some of them are "rough trade"—thugs with criminal pasts, busted for prostitution, drugs, or armed assault—while others are "gay for pay," married with kids and hustling for their families; most are Mogutin’s friends. NYC Go-Go captures the spirit of a scene under fire with Mogutin’s trademark raw, in-your-face style.
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< NYC Go-Go > < Backstage Pass: Broadway Bares > < Night Visions: Contemporary Male Photography (Photo Anthology) > < Gods of Sport > < Chulo > freaks

< The Trouble with Normal: Sex, Politics, and the Ethics of Queer Life > < The History of Sexuality, Vol. 1: An Introduction > < Fear of a Queer Planet: Queer Politics and Social Theory (Cultural Politics, Vol 6) > < Publics and Counterpublics > < Epistemology of the Closet > < Gender Trouble: Feminism and the Subversion of Identity (Routledge Classics) > Michael Warner

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Harvard University Press
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(a book of rants against gay marriage)

(Same-sex marriage != queer liberation)

(wow)

(a little over the top)

(A great and powerful demolition of the puritanical elements of the gay movement)

*The Trouble with Normal* is Warner's stance against gay marriage. Actually, it's more than that. Warner addresses normalcy and this is where he actually had interesting yet heady things to say. In order to challenge normalcy, Warner takes us through history to show us how shame has been attached to anything queer.

However, after two chapters, I realized that Warner is redundant and basically rants against aspects of the gay life. In addition, he bashes gay contemporaries on the very same issues he is addressing.

Amazon.com summarizes that Warner believes that gays in monogamous relationships are actually doing a disservice to those who chose not to be in one. I had to laugh because I thinking, and monogamous straight people don't do a disservice to those who aren't? It is tiresome when one berates the gay community when it is the same in the straight community yet it isn't addressed.

Anyways, I get it that some gays consider gay marriage to be heteronormative. And I was hoping that Warner would elaborate intellectually on that. However, Warner didn't and just bash aspects of the gay life and contemporaries.
A comprehensive and incisive excoriation of same-sex marriage as a movement for "gay liberation." Warner's investigations of the interactions between gay shame and a push for same-sex marriage (see also Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore and Benjamin Shepard) is a useful lens to explore the millions of dollars and volunteer hours going almost exclusively to same-sex marriage advocacy -- at the expense of issues that arguably have a larger impact on the day-to-day lives of most queer and trans folks, from health care to housing to gentrification.

This latter trend, which pits rich white gays and lesbians -- toward whom the advocacy organizations like the Human Rights Campaign are oriented -- against their less-wealthy queer and trans sisters and brothers, assumes all the more currency when reading "gay assimilationist" author-activists like Michael Signorile, Dan Savage and Larry Kramer who, regardless of their counter-cultural "shock" approaches are nonetheless reinforcing ideas of middle-class normalcy as the long-awaited future for queers. Warner differs, and offers a radical notion of sexual autonomy and sexual ethics in their stead. Though Warner seems somewhat unaware of the liberation theories advanced before him by radical feminists like Judith Butler and John Stoltenberg, trans theorists like Riki Wilchins and race theorists/historians like Robin D.G. Kelley, his critique of and within the queer community is well-deserved.
This book is for any gay rights activist who finds themselves wondering "why I am so ambivalent about gay marriage?"

I was recommended this book on amazon because one of my favorite books is Here Comes the Bride by Jaclyn Gellar. What that book does for marriage and straight women, this book does for marriage and the gay community.

It is completely and utterly vital work that Warner did.
i bought this for a queer theory class and read it and found it interesting. i don't think i would have picked it up just to read, though. it's definitely something that the average jane would need to discuss to get the most out of (at least i did), but as a class text it was good... parts of it were a little over the top for me, but informative and stretched my mind for sure.
Warner presents a highly valuable and enjoyable polemic against the increasingly LGBTQ movement or what would be better termed the growing "embourgeoisment" of the queer liberation movement represented best by such petty reactionaries as Andrew Sullivan, Michelangelo Signorile, and Larry Kramer. It certainly makes you think more about how sexually liberated we in our 'enlightened' age truly are.